"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

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A little unsure on what to do?

Skidsta

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Hey guys, i've been on 2 dates with this girl - 1st was coffee - short & sweet and a kiss at the end of the date (we'd met in a club the previous week), 2nd date went bowling, to a bar then to a club - really good night and after the bar we were holding hands/touching more and in the club she was really into me, teased, flirted, kissed, etc....

I'm living in a backpackers hostel in Oz as i'm travelling (but i'm staying put in the city for a few months), and she moved in the other day as she's got a few weeks left before she goes home. This makes it hard to not see each other most days so i'm gonna be keeping myself out the way a little so as not for that to happen too much. Now we went out Monday and i bumped into her yesterday and we spoke a little, she followed me round a little but we didn't kiss, etc... With her only being here for 2-3 weeks obviously i wanna try and get some action in and i do like her a lot, any advice on my situation? Also i don't wanna come across as needy but is it ok for me to initiate the kissing, hugging, etc... but keep it limited? It's just i know she likes me (from the 2nd date & the way she was acting, talking to me, asking if i liked her & not sure how i'd act towards her the next day, etc...) and i wanna make the most of the time left but maintaining control & not being an AFC?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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dreamxhenry

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Skidsta said:
Hey guys, i've been on 2 dates with this girl - 1st was coffee - short & sweet and a kiss at the end of the date (we'd met in a club the previous week), 2nd date went bowling, to a bar then to a club - really good night and after the bar we were holding hands/touching more and in the club she was really into me, teased, flirted, kissed, etc....

I'm living in a backpackers hostel in Oz as i'm travelling (but i'm staying put in the city for a few months), and she moved in the other day as she's got a few weeks left before she goes home. This makes it hard to not see each other most days so i'm gonna be keeping myself out the way a little so as not for that to happen too much. Now we went out Monday and i bumped into her yesterday and we spoke a little, she followed me round a little but we didn't kiss, etc... With her only being here for 2-3 weeks obviously i wanna try and get some action in and i do like her a lot, any advice on my situation? Also i don't wanna come across as needy but is it ok for me to initiate the kissing, hugging, etc... but keep it limited? It's just i know she likes me (from the 2nd date & the way she was acting, talking to me, asking if i liked her & not sure how i'd act towards her the next day, etc...) and i wanna make the most of the time left but maintaining control & not being an AFC?
Dude relax,just let stuff be natural and why are you posting a pointless thread it seems like you got everything going but your just over thinking stuff,RELAX!
 

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