"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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a little advice please?

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I'm in one of the best dating places I can ask for at my age: college. I'm only 20 and there are lots of girls to talk to and date. However, I kind of messed around too much (slacked off) and had a state of depression which made things worse so I'm most likely gonna need another year to graduate (so 5 years instead of 4).

Most of my older buddies know about it since it's a small school and you know mostly everyone, but the new class doesn't really know about it.

How do I go about still talking to girls I'm interested in? Do I lie or just don't worry about it?
 
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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hey man read the DJ bible and read some articles...that will give you the knowledge you seek..
 

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I've read the Bible, but it's not really applicable in my situation. Check my edit for more info.
 

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alright man...heres the dice...you said small school so everyone already knows about your slacking off except the incoming class. you want to approach some HB but u cant cause you see urself as a failure from the past semesters. Lying to them wont do any good....its really not applicable, you said urself that its a small school and everyone knows everyone....whatever...
lying will just make you look weak...accept ur defeat from the past so that you can strive forward and be successfull. Dont let ur past failures anchor u down..its time to move on. I dont think bit*chez really care about how u goofed off too much in the past.....doesn't really matter cause its history. Show ambition for the present and the future....girls really dig ambition...keep approaching and if ur past is a touchy subject dont bring it up just roll wit' it. GL.

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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Originally posted by tobby
I've read the Bible, but it's not really applicable in my situation. Check my edit for more info.
I fail to see how it's "not applicable" to you simply because you're at a small college and are taking longer to graduate. The principles of attraction haven't changed simply because of the size of the school you go to or the length of time you're there for. Girls haven't changed because you're going to take 5 years to graduate instead of 4. The only thing that's changed is your own mindset... either you can be stuck in it, complacent to say "it doesn't apply to me", or you can push yourself out of your comfort zone and utilize the knowledge already on this site.

Since "how do I attract girls" isn't exactly a new question on the forum, closed.
 
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