"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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A lesson or two from ELIMIDATe!!! Funny is good. WEIRD IS BAD.

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Ever seen the stupid show??? Well, its like watching a train wreck but there are a FEW actually useful things.

You can TELL WHO"S GONNA WIN ALMOST RIGHT AWAY BECAUSE most of the guys ELIMINATE THEMSELVES.

Here's the usual outcome:
1. One of the guys is the "goofy" dude. He tries to win the girl through sheer craziness. At first this resembles ****y and f unny but quickly it turns into WEIRDness. He's the first kicked off. If he would have shut his mouth, been nuts within limits, and then he would have stayed around.

2. Another guy makes the mistake of BLURTING OUT SOMETHING SCARY about himself. He has said too much. Once again, keeping his mouth shut was better. You know the drill....he admits something : "i like to get in touch with my femine side.

Guys, weird comments cross the line. She never forgets them.

3. Well, now its down to two guys. These two guys might be boring, but they havnt eliminated themselves.

Right now she's looking to see who can actually hold a conversation, has a decent job, and keeps himself in shape .

But once again one of the two usually eliminates himself by doing something stupid.

The lesson here is=-------Be fun, and funny, but dont be WEIRD.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Sad. Sad. Sad.

I've only had the pleasure of seeing such cr@p one time.

It seemed to me that every guy on the show was an AFC.
It was too hard to sit through an entire episode because
i felt soo embarrassed for the guys...
It was sad.


:(
 

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I understand where you're coming from, but if a girl likes you, little else really matters. She will love you being weird too.
 

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Originally posted by Walk this Way
I understand where you're coming from, but if a girl likes you, little else really matters. She will love you being weird too.
I agree with this. If you are your trueself and if the girl doesn't like it... she won't like it - who gives a shiat. Didn't see the Elimicrap episode but you have to admit to yourself.. it is TV not real life.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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