"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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A guy asked out my GF :confused:

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So while talking today, my GF told me that his ex ex boyfriend had recently been contacting her, and asked her to get back together yesterday. While my GF only told me that he wanted to get back together, she didn't tell me what her reply was, and when i asked the first time she didn't say anything. Thinking that she didn't hear me, i asked again, and she said she told him no. So i didn't think much. But remembering that yesterday and the day before she was acting weird when i was msging her, she acted really cold and not wanting to talk, but it suddenly got better today. Am i thinking too much? :(
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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If the coldness starts up again then she's already lost to you. My guess is your relationship has been getting stale/slow and she was toying with the idea of playing away. He showed his hand too soon and the excitement is gone from the idea. she remembers why they split before, and starts playing nice to you again.

If you want to keep this girl, get her excited about you again. Do fun stuff, spice up your svx life. Take her somewhere fun, otherwise, soon your princess will be in another castle
 

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gpshields3 said:
She's thinking about leaving you? I couldn't imagine why. :(
But I'm just really confused of how she acted like nothing happened today.
 

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I forgot to mention one crucial thing, and that is we're currently in a long distance relationship.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Purefilth

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Edit - ldr? You've probably lost her already

She thinks she did nothing wrong, and she didn't, she just fantasized about it
 

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RonDuan said:
So while talking today, my GF told me that his ex ex boyfriend had recently been contacting her, and asked her to get back together yesterday. While my GF only told me that he wanted to get back together, she didn't tell me what her reply was, and when i asked the first time she didn't say anything. Thinking that she didn't hear me, i asked again, and she said she told him no. So i didn't think much. But remembering that yesterday and the day before she was acting weird when i was msging her, she acted really cold and not wanting to talk, but it suddenly got better today. Am i thinking too much? :(
Are you going to just let this guy punk you like that?

I want to know.

I don't think she will respect you if you do.

What do you plan to do about the guy?

You could probably talk to him about not talking to your girl anymore.

Do you think this is possible?

That would solve the issue.

Unless hes really low life he wouldn't continue.
 

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Purefilth said:
If the coldness starts up again then she's already lost to you. My guess is your relationship has been getting stale/slow and she was toying with the idea of playing away. He showed his hand too soon and the excitement is gone from the idea. she remembers why they split before, and starts playing nice to you again.

If you want to keep this girl, get her excited about you again. Do fun stuff, spice up your svx life. Take her somewhere fun, otherwise, soon your princess will be in another castle
The problem here lies clearly with the guy.

He has no respect for the OP.

What is he going to do to gain respect?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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gspshields2 said:
The problem here lies clearly with the guy.

He has no respect for the OP.
The guy owes the OP nothing. When you're hitting on a girl with a boyfriend, you owe the boyfriend nothing. It's the boyfriend's duty to keep his woman and keep their relationship solid.

The OP is not going that with a long distance "relationship". :down:
 

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^ I agree, OP IGNORE GSPSHIELDS He's a troll, dunno why he isn't banned yet
 

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gspshields2 said:
The problem here lies clearly with the guy.

He has no respect for the OP.

What is he going to do to gain respect?
Wrong!!

It has little to do with the other guy's respect and EVERYTHING to do with the girl's respect. The other guy's just spitting game. Why is she sitting around listening to it, fantasizing about him and toying with the idea of leaving?

Because she has lost respect for the OP. Her behavior is HER responsibility. She could shut that other guy down in a split-second, but she hasn't.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Atom Smasher said:
Wrong!!

It has little to do with the other guy's respect and EVERYTHING to do with the girl's respect. The other guy's just spitting game. Why is she sitting around listening to it, fantasizing about him and toying with the idea of leaving?

Because she has lost respect for the OP. Her behavior is HER responsibility. She could shut that other guy down in a split-second, but she hasn't.

It's true the girl could shut him down in a split-second.

But just saying that confronting the guy would also stop the situation as well.

I had a similar experience with my friend's girl and some other guy in my neighborhood.

I confronted the other man and told him not to mess with my boy's girl.

He was pretty much sh*tting his pants and kept apologizing to me.

Problem solved in that particular situation, not saying it's always the solution.

But the girl is responsible as well, both parties are.

Other guys don't care if the girls are in serious LTR's, they just wanna be home wreckers and I don't respect that at all.
 
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