"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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A guy asked out my GF :confused:

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So while talking today, my GF told me that his ex ex boyfriend had recently been contacting her, and asked her to get back together yesterday. While my GF only told me that he wanted to get back together, she didn't tell me what her reply was, and when i asked the first time she didn't say anything. Thinking that she didn't hear me, i asked again, and she said she told him no. So i didn't think much. But remembering that yesterday and the day before she was acting weird when i was msging her, she acted really cold and not wanting to talk, but it suddenly got better today. Am i thinking too much? :(
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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If the coldness starts up again then she's already lost to you. My guess is your relationship has been getting stale/slow and she was toying with the idea of playing away. He showed his hand too soon and the excitement is gone from the idea. she remembers why they split before, and starts playing nice to you again.

If you want to keep this girl, get her excited about you again. Do fun stuff, spice up your svx life. Take her somewhere fun, otherwise, soon your princess will be in another castle
 
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gpshields3 said:
She's thinking about leaving you? I couldn't imagine why. :(
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But I'm just really confused of how she acted like nothing happened today.
 
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I forgot to mention one crucial thing, and that is we're currently in a long distance relationship.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Edit - ldr? You've probably lost her already

She thinks she did nothing wrong, and she didn't, she just fantasized about it
 
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RonDuan said:
So while talking today, my GF told me that his ex ex boyfriend had recently been contacting her, and asked her to get back together yesterday. While my GF only told me that he wanted to get back together, she didn't tell me what her reply was, and when i asked the first time she didn't say anything. Thinking that she didn't hear me, i asked again, and she said she told him no. So i didn't think much. But remembering that yesterday and the day before she was acting weird when i was msging her, she acted really cold and not wanting to talk, but it suddenly got better today. Am i thinking too much? :(
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Are you going to just let this guy punk you like that?

I want to know.

I don't think she will respect you if you do.

What do you plan to do about the guy?

You could probably talk to him about not talking to your girl anymore.

Do you think this is possible?

That would solve the issue.

Unless hes really low life he wouldn't continue.
 
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If the coldness starts up again then she's already lost to you. My guess is your relationship has been getting stale/slow and she was toying with the idea of playing away. He showed his hand too soon and the excitement is gone from the idea. she remembers why they split before, and starts playing nice to you again.

If you want to keep this girl, get her excited about you again. Do fun stuff, spice up your svx life. Take her somewhere fun, otherwise, soon your princess will be in another castle
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The problem here lies clearly with the guy.

He has no respect for the OP.

What is he going to do to gain respect?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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gspshields2 said:
The problem here lies clearly with the guy.

He has no respect for the OP.
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The guy owes the OP nothing. When you're hitting on a girl with a boyfriend, you owe the boyfriend nothing. It's the boyfriend's duty to keep his woman and keep their relationship solid.

The OP is not going that with a long distance "relationship". :down:
 
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^ I agree, OP IGNORE GSPSHIELDS He's a troll, dunno why he isn't banned yet
 
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gspshields2 said:
The problem here lies clearly with the guy.

He has no respect for the OP.

What is he going to do to gain respect?
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Wrong!!

It has little to do with the other guy's respect and EVERYTHING to do with the girl's respect. The other guy's just spitting game. Why is she sitting around listening to it, fantasizing about him and toying with the idea of leaving?

Because she has lost respect for the OP. Her behavior is HER responsibility. She could shut that other guy down in a split-second, but she hasn't.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Wrong!!

It has little to do with the other guy's respect and EVERYTHING to do with the girl's respect. The other guy's just spitting game. Why is she sitting around listening to it, fantasizing about him and toying with the idea of leaving?

Because she has lost respect for the OP. Her behavior is HER responsibility. She could shut that other guy down in a split-second, but she hasn't.
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It's true the girl could shut him down in a split-second.

But just saying that confronting the guy would also stop the situation as well.

I had a similar experience with my friend's girl and some other guy in my neighborhood.

I confronted the other man and told him not to mess with my boy's girl.

He was pretty much sh*tting his pants and kept apologizing to me.

Problem solved in that particular situation, not saying it's always the solution.

But the girl is responsible as well, both parties are.

Other guys don't care if the girls are in serious LTR's, they just wanna be home wreckers and I don't respect that at all.
 
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