Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
A goodlooking face or money is everything. Not being Don Juan.
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
They can tell by the type of clothes you wear, your car, and your possessions. Basically anything materialistic.AreYouSingleFemale said:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PoKA-a5vEEc
Yes, a lame personality can turn off a woman even a woman that's interested and finds you attractive, but please "game" has nothing to do with it and is just something David DeAngelo, Mystery, Neil Strauss and the like made up to sell books to chumps like the guys on this site.
I also agree with the person that said approaching a lot of women and getting a "yes" is the answer for those who aren't fortunate enough to be universally attractive. There WILL be a woman your type out there that likes you...it's just up to you to take a lot of rejections and be a man in the meantime.
It is one of the reasons I stayed away from TV, understanding that it is all fake- but in reality many girls would react the same, because we live in a media-savvy world. I was often outcasted in my youth for being or acting different, or outside the norm. Any other reason why my outlook on life is so bad right now?
I also wanted to add that, yes, it is easy to get angry and bitter and frustrated with this, but it isn't helpful. We have to accept that this is what life is.
Game matters, too, but if you had a choice between looks+money or having impeccable game, take looks+money. Why work so hard if you don't have to?
That's what the issue really is. You can work hard, or you can hardly work. If you have money and looks, you hardly have to work. If you don't, you have to get your grind on.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Someone Much cooler
Senior Don Juan
I am glad I am at a phase where I am above such immaturity and a warped idea of reality. A lot of girls liked doing a little number on me. Also I live in the UK, and girls my age are not so forgiving over obvious shortcomings..some are really mean.
learning about relationships in school, we never were taught about physical attraction, which is the most important and problematic aspect of dating, especially when you're young. It was only things like 'I like burgers. Hey, so do I!', that sort of thing. That stuff has little validity in the real world.