"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
A goodlooking face or money is everything. Not being Don Juan.
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
They can tell by the type of clothes you wear, your car, and your possessions. Basically anything materialistic.AreYouSingleFemale said:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PoKA-a5vEEc
Yes, a lame personality can turn off a woman even a woman that's interested and finds you attractive, but please "game" has nothing to do with it and is just something David DeAngelo, Mystery, Neil Strauss and the like made up to sell books to chumps like the guys on this site.
I also agree with the person that said approaching a lot of women and getting a "yes" is the answer for those who aren't fortunate enough to be universally attractive. There WILL be a woman your type out there that likes you...it's just up to you to take a lot of rejections and be a man in the meantime.
It is one of the reasons I stayed away from TV, understanding that it is all fake- but in reality many girls would react the same, because we live in a media-savvy world. I was often outcasted in my youth for being or acting different, or outside the norm. Any other reason why my outlook on life is so bad right now?
I also wanted to add that, yes, it is easy to get angry and bitter and frustrated with this, but it isn't helpful. We have to accept that this is what life is.
Game matters, too, but if you had a choice between looks+money or having impeccable game, take looks+money. Why work so hard if you don't have to?
That's what the issue really is. You can work hard, or you can hardly work. If you have money and looks, you hardly have to work. If you don't, you have to get your grind on.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
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I am glad I am at a phase where I am above such immaturity and a warped idea of reality. A lot of girls liked doing a little number on me. Also I live in the UK, and girls my age are not so forgiving over obvious shortcomings..some are really mean.
learning about relationships in school, we never were taught about physical attraction, which is the most important and problematic aspect of dating, especially when you're young. It was only things like 'I like burgers. Hey, so do I!', that sort of thing. That stuff has little validity in the real world.