"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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A girl says "Do I know you?", what should you say?

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Hello, I did a cold approach on a girl by saying "Hey, what've you been up to?" and she said "Do I know you?". Unfortunately, I got a little nervous and my emotions came out and I said "No, but I don't mind talking to strangers as I'm passing by". That allowed me to extend the approach for a little longer by asking about her tattoos. Then I found out she was getting married soon. I know I didn't give the best answer on the fly, and every so often I have women that ask me this "Do I know you?" question. What is the best answer to that question?
I liked using "What've you been up to?" better than "How're you doing" because the latter is friendlier and less specific, while the first one is an open-ended question. I know my openers aren't the best ones, but as long as I get past a minute of conversation with a stranger, people start to trust and accept me generally.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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you should say

"yes I get that alot, I do stunt work for Tom Cruise. What's your name?"
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Casslehoff said:
she said shes getting married so you can get away from her...
:lol: Actually, I was asking about her tattoos and one of them she said was a reference to her fiancee. I'm still waiting for that big jump in my game where I start improving, but I've been on such a big losing streak the past couple months. So, I'm trying to force myself out of my comfort zone and approach more.
 

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Deicide said:
:lol: Actually, I was asking about her tattoos and one of them she said was a reference to her fiancee. I'm still waiting for that big jump in my game where I start improving, but I've been on such a big losing streak the past couple months. So, I'm trying to force myself out of my comfort zone and approach more.

I bet that even though she is engaged, if you pushed the right buttons you could still be tapping that a$$.
 

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Sue Madre said:
I bet that even though she is engaged, if you pushed the right buttons you could still be tapping that a$$.
Not really, unless she was physically attracted to him. And plus she has a fiance. Not all women can get swoon by magic lines by "puas"
 

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Sue Madre said:
I bet that even though she is engaged, if you pushed the right buttons you could still be tapping that a$$.
I got that vibe too. For now, I just want to try to get with single women. I'm inexperienced with all of this stuff(Still haven't got to kiss a girl on the lips yet). I'm not ready to try to steal fiancees and married women. lol
 

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Deicide said:
I got that vibe too. For now, I just want to try to get with single women. I'm inexperienced with all of this stuff(Still haven't got to kiss a girl on the lips yet). I'm not ready to try to steal fiancees and married women. lol
How old are you?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Reply 'Nope' then onto the next one.

Talk to another girl, better yet when she's still present.
 

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Casslehoff said:
How do you dress, are you overweight , skinny,
I'm not grossly overweight, but I'm not skinny either.. I'm a stocky build at 5'9 170. Recently, I've bought a couple form-fitting shirts when I'm out(American Eagle and Aeropostale), but prior to that, I would just wear jeans and a t-shirt.
 

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That's why I hate those random "Hello!" openers.

I find it's better to actually talk to someone about something, rather than talk for the sake of talking.

For instance, if she has tattoos, you could have walked up and said "Whoa. That's a cool tattoo. When did you get that...blah blah blah."

It seems to open the door to a more normal conversation than asking a stranger "What have you been up to?"
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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I'm pretty sure an inked up girl gets dudes starting convos about her artwork like 5-10 times a day.

So I don't know how that **** is gonna work for OP.
 

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Iceberg said:
That's why I hate those random "Hello!" openers.

I find it's better to actually talk to someone about something, rather than talk for the sake of talking.

For instance, if she has tattoos, you could have walked up and said "Whoa. That's a cool tattoo. When did you get that...blah blah blah."

It seems to open the door to a more normal conversation than asking a stranger "What have you been up to?"
Yeah, I remember just saying Hey to random women when I was walking around campus and they seemed to think I was creepy. While, if I added something to it, things went much better. Yeah, but for a lot of women, I really don't know what to open them with if they're not wearing something interesting. So, generic openers ensue at times.
At Tyson: The tattoo topic opened her up much better than the opener. Also, this is Rural Tennessee. I can't remember the last time I've seen someone do a cold approach in the daytime here. So many people here are married by my age.
 

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Tyson420 said:
I'm pretty sure an inked up girl gets dudes starting convos about her artwork like 5-10 times a day.

So I don't know how that **** is gonna work for OP.
It's likely better than a random hello.

If a girl thinks you're attractive, she won't mind bullsh*tting her way through her 100th tattoo conversation of the day.

And if she doesn't think you're attractive, it won't matter how you open her.

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Yeah, I remember just saying Hey to random women when I was walking around campus and they seemed to think I was creepy. While, if I added something to it, things went much better. Yeah, but for a lot of women, I really don't know what to open them with if they're not wearing something interesting. So, generic openers ensue at times.
You'll figure something out. I'm at a coffee shop right now, and there's a girl next to me playing on her phone. So what's a good opener....you could say "What kind of phone is that?" "Oh really? My friends forced me to get an iPhone, but I have no idea how to use....blah blah"

If it's hot outside, you talk about that. If it looks like rain, ask about that. If she looks Greek, ask her if she is. I mean, of course nothing is 100% guaranteed, but I'm sure you're smart enough to find something unique about people. And if there's nothing unique about her....f**k it...she's probably boring anyway.
 

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Deicide said:
Yeah, I remember just saying Hey to random women when I was walking around campus and they seemed to think I was creepy. While, if I added something to it, things went much better. Yeah, but for a lot of women, I really don't know what to open them with if they're not wearing something interesting. So, generic openers ensue at times.
At Tyson: The tattoo topic opened her up much better than the opener. Also, this is Rural Tennessee. I can't remember the last time I've seen someone do a cold approach in the daytime here. So many people here are married by my age.
You're swimming up hill running up on chicks that are not interested in you. One day sit in the mall where you could be seen, and see how many girls give you eye contact for 2 seconds
 

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You're swimming up hill running up on chicks that are not interested in you. One day sit in the mall where you could be seen, and see how many girls give you eye contact for 2 seconds
Ok, I'll try that out sometime. I just hope some women I would approach will give me eye contact in that situation. I've just been doing blind cold approaches and going after what I want.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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