"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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A girl says "Do I know you?", what should you say?

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Hello, I did a cold approach on a girl by saying "Hey, what've you been up to?" and she said "Do I know you?". Unfortunately, I got a little nervous and my emotions came out and I said "No, but I don't mind talking to strangers as I'm passing by". That allowed me to extend the approach for a little longer by asking about her tattoos. Then I found out she was getting married soon. I know I didn't give the best answer on the fly, and every so often I have women that ask me this "Do I know you?" question. What is the best answer to that question?
I liked using "What've you been up to?" better than "How're you doing" because the latter is friendlier and less specific, while the first one is an open-ended question. I know my openers aren't the best ones, but as long as I get past a minute of conversation with a stranger, people start to trust and accept me generally.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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you should say

"yes I get that alot, I do stunt work for Tom Cruise. What's your name?"
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Casslehoff said:
she said shes getting married so you can get away from her...
:lol: Actually, I was asking about her tattoos and one of them she said was a reference to her fiancee. I'm still waiting for that big jump in my game where I start improving, but I've been on such a big losing streak the past couple months. So, I'm trying to force myself out of my comfort zone and approach more.
 

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Deicide said:
:lol: Actually, I was asking about her tattoos and one of them she said was a reference to her fiancee. I'm still waiting for that big jump in my game where I start improving, but I've been on such a big losing streak the past couple months. So, I'm trying to force myself out of my comfort zone and approach more.

I bet that even though she is engaged, if you pushed the right buttons you could still be tapping that a$$.
 

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Sue Madre said:
I bet that even though she is engaged, if you pushed the right buttons you could still be tapping that a$$.
Not really, unless she was physically attracted to him. And plus she has a fiance. Not all women can get swoon by magic lines by "puas"
 

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Sue Madre said:
I bet that even though she is engaged, if you pushed the right buttons you could still be tapping that a$$.
I got that vibe too. For now, I just want to try to get with single women. I'm inexperienced with all of this stuff(Still haven't got to kiss a girl on the lips yet). I'm not ready to try to steal fiancees and married women. lol
 

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Deicide said:
I got that vibe too. For now, I just want to try to get with single women. I'm inexperienced with all of this stuff(Still haven't got to kiss a girl on the lips yet). I'm not ready to try to steal fiancees and married women. lol
How old are you?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Reply 'Nope' then onto the next one.

Talk to another girl, better yet when she's still present.
 

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Casslehoff said:
How do you dress, are you overweight , skinny,
I'm not grossly overweight, but I'm not skinny either.. I'm a stocky build at 5'9 170. Recently, I've bought a couple form-fitting shirts when I'm out(American Eagle and Aeropostale), but prior to that, I would just wear jeans and a t-shirt.
 

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That's why I hate those random "Hello!" openers.

I find it's better to actually talk to someone about something, rather than talk for the sake of talking.

For instance, if she has tattoos, you could have walked up and said "Whoa. That's a cool tattoo. When did you get that...blah blah blah."

It seems to open the door to a more normal conversation than asking a stranger "What have you been up to?"
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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I'm pretty sure an inked up girl gets dudes starting convos about her artwork like 5-10 times a day.

So I don't know how that **** is gonna work for OP.
 

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Iceberg said:
That's why I hate those random "Hello!" openers.

I find it's better to actually talk to someone about something, rather than talk for the sake of talking.

For instance, if she has tattoos, you could have walked up and said "Whoa. That's a cool tattoo. When did you get that...blah blah blah."

It seems to open the door to a more normal conversation than asking a stranger "What have you been up to?"
Yeah, I remember just saying Hey to random women when I was walking around campus and they seemed to think I was creepy. While, if I added something to it, things went much better. Yeah, but for a lot of women, I really don't know what to open them with if they're not wearing something interesting. So, generic openers ensue at times.
At Tyson: The tattoo topic opened her up much better than the opener. Also, this is Rural Tennessee. I can't remember the last time I've seen someone do a cold approach in the daytime here. So many people here are married by my age.
 

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Tyson420 said:
I'm pretty sure an inked up girl gets dudes starting convos about her artwork like 5-10 times a day.

So I don't know how that **** is gonna work for OP.
It's likely better than a random hello.

If a girl thinks you're attractive, she won't mind bullsh*tting her way through her 100th tattoo conversation of the day.

And if she doesn't think you're attractive, it won't matter how you open her.

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Yeah, I remember just saying Hey to random women when I was walking around campus and they seemed to think I was creepy. While, if I added something to it, things went much better. Yeah, but for a lot of women, I really don't know what to open them with if they're not wearing something interesting. So, generic openers ensue at times.
You'll figure something out. I'm at a coffee shop right now, and there's a girl next to me playing on her phone. So what's a good opener....you could say "What kind of phone is that?" "Oh really? My friends forced me to get an iPhone, but I have no idea how to use....blah blah"

If it's hot outside, you talk about that. If it looks like rain, ask about that. If she looks Greek, ask her if she is. I mean, of course nothing is 100% guaranteed, but I'm sure you're smart enough to find something unique about people. And if there's nothing unique about her....f**k it...she's probably boring anyway.
 

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Deicide said:
Yeah, I remember just saying Hey to random women when I was walking around campus and they seemed to think I was creepy. While, if I added something to it, things went much better. Yeah, but for a lot of women, I really don't know what to open them with if they're not wearing something interesting. So, generic openers ensue at times.
At Tyson: The tattoo topic opened her up much better than the opener. Also, this is Rural Tennessee. I can't remember the last time I've seen someone do a cold approach in the daytime here. So many people here are married by my age.
You're swimming up hill running up on chicks that are not interested in you. One day sit in the mall where you could be seen, and see how many girls give you eye contact for 2 seconds
 

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Casslehoff said:
You're swimming up hill running up on chicks that are not interested in you. One day sit in the mall where you could be seen, and see how many girls give you eye contact for 2 seconds
Ok, I'll try that out sometime. I just hope some women I would approach will give me eye contact in that situation. I've just been doing blind cold approaches and going after what I want.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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