I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
I've already noticed that with a chick I was talking to at my part time second job. Casually talking. I'd gotten her number though her talking about smoking pot and getting drunk a few times on weekends when I asked what she did turned me off even though she is a hottie and I never called her to hang out. (I'm not that desperate to get laid.)Who Dares Win said:
When I was not at my part time for a week due to a pulled muscle and walked by her area on my way to get some new sweat suits I said hello and made small talk. She asked where I'd been and told her I was out for a week and what for. She casually mentioned after about two months of us BSing: "Oh my boyfriend slipped a disk" I don't know if chiropractors can really help". (I found it odd she randomly all of a sudden chose to mention "boyfriend" though it may've been a "friend" she's mentioned at times previously who got upgraded.) Nevertheless I'm not interested in the boyfriend challenge. (Unless it's possibly used up front in a first conversation as a sh1t test. Then I'm amused.)
In my case I didn't flinch and kept talking for a minute or so after while ignoring what she said.
My reaction was none and since the drug mention and the boyfriend drop out of the blue I wasn't willing to invest period.
Who'd want to waste time "trying" to go after a chick who just dropped the boyfriend out of the blue in conversation? Perhaps some desperate h0rny dude who feels the need to prove his "confidence" to some chick who's already dropped boyfriend. Not I. In the OPs case it's a jealousy reaction card. Possibly in mine too though.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
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