You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
I've already noticed that with a chick I was talking to at my part time second job. Casually talking. I'd gotten her number though her talking about smoking pot and getting drunk a few times on weekends when I asked what she did turned me off even though she is a hottie and I never called her to hang out. (I'm not that desperate to get laid.)Who Dares Win said:
When I was not at my part time for a week due to a pulled muscle and walked by her area on my way to get some new sweat suits I said hello and made small talk. She asked where I'd been and told her I was out for a week and what for. She casually mentioned after about two months of us BSing: "Oh my boyfriend slipped a disk" I don't know if chiropractors can really help". (I found it odd she randomly all of a sudden chose to mention "boyfriend" though it may've been a "friend" she's mentioned at times previously who got upgraded.) Nevertheless I'm not interested in the boyfriend challenge. (Unless it's possibly used up front in a first conversation as a sh1t test. Then I'm amused.)
In my case I didn't flinch and kept talking for a minute or so after while ignoring what she said.
My reaction was none and since the drug mention and the boyfriend drop out of the blue I wasn't willing to invest period.
Who'd want to waste time "trying" to go after a chick who just dropped the boyfriend out of the blue in conversation? Perhaps some desperate h0rny dude who feels the need to prove his "confidence" to some chick who's already dropped boyfriend. Not I. In the OPs case it's a jealousy reaction card. Possibly in mine too though.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
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