"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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blackbelt2k

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hey guys, i haven't posted in a while as things were going good for me. But in the last month, I have regressed. This past week I got too drunk, made many bad descions and made an ass of myself, in my eyes. Now I am filled with regret for doing the stupid things i did, i feel embarassed, and worse; I lost a great deal of the qualities that made me a dj. I just want to shake this feeling and climb back to where I was. My pride is hurt, and even worse, I feel like an ******* for my actions. What can i do to shake this?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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blackbelt2k said:
I lost a great deal of the qualities that made me a dj. I just want to shake this feeling and climb back to where I was. My pride is hurt, and even worse, I feel like an ******* for my actions. What can i do to shake this?
You don't lose these qualities, you just make mistakes. Do you feel like an ******* because of what you did, or what you feel others think about you? Is you pride hurt because of your ego?

You got to let it all go man. If you want go into more detail, maybe we could help more. But, understand it's normal to make mistakes, but a MAN learns from them. He grows. He knows he fvcked up, he doesn't justify it, or place blame. He learns and becomes a better man.

Are you a blackbelt? If you get into a fight and get knocked down, are you trained to get up and keep fighting? or quit.
 

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Thanks alot. Your right, I made the mistakes, and now I've learned from them. I feel like an @SS both for what I did, and how I think others will think of me now. But I am graduating this week, and leaving for home. Definitely learned a lesson and really can't wait to go, and put this in the past.
 
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