"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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blackbelt2k

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hey guys, i haven't posted in a while as things were going good for me. But in the last month, I have regressed. This past week I got too drunk, made many bad descions and made an ass of myself, in my eyes. Now I am filled with regret for doing the stupid things i did, i feel embarassed, and worse; I lost a great deal of the qualities that made me a dj. I just want to shake this feeling and climb back to where I was. My pride is hurt, and even worse, I feel like an ******* for my actions. What can i do to shake this?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Mr.Positive

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blackbelt2k said:
I lost a great deal of the qualities that made me a dj. I just want to shake this feeling and climb back to where I was. My pride is hurt, and even worse, I feel like an ******* for my actions. What can i do to shake this?
You don't lose these qualities, you just make mistakes. Do you feel like an ******* because of what you did, or what you feel others think about you? Is you pride hurt because of your ego?

You got to let it all go man. If you want go into more detail, maybe we could help more. But, understand it's normal to make mistakes, but a MAN learns from them. He grows. He knows he fvcked up, he doesn't justify it, or place blame. He learns and becomes a better man.

Are you a blackbelt? If you get into a fight and get knocked down, are you trained to get up and keep fighting? or quit.
 

blackbelt2k

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Thanks alot. Your right, I made the mistakes, and now I've learned from them. I feel like an @SS both for what I did, and how I think others will think of me now. But I am graduating this week, and leaving for home. Definitely learned a lesson and really can't wait to go, and put this in the past.
 
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