Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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a few girls asked if I was ghey

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Go grab one of these chicks and start making out with her. She might get into it. If not, say "you're hot, and I'm not gay. What do you expect me to do?"
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Yeah, the girls who asked really aren't the kind of girls I want to kiss.
 

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A few women have asked me that, and I just assume its because I look too good for them to believe I'm just a normal guy. Just take it as you're doing something right, because girls don't really judge guys off of how they act, and more so on how they appear and whatnot.
 

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ChapStick said:
first impression of me is that I'm gay....I carry myself in a strong masculine way.... I wear tight fitting designer clothing.
Something severely wrong with these statements.:down:
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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When you ask a woman out and she denies, you can say "I bet she´s gay"!!
 

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The Inside Man said:
Something severely wrong with these statements.:down:
Hear me out, because I'm not sure you got my message correctly. I'm basically conveying to people that they should look and dress in a way that makes them feel confident. Who cares what other people think?

Oh, and what's wrong with fitted clothing? I happen to think they make me look good. Look at the brand Diesel and their clothing. Most of their jeans are made to fit closely to the body. I look at appearance as a way to express ones-self. While my look may not be very unique (hardly anything is nowadays), I do stand out from the rest of the crowd. It's how you carry yourself that makes you who you are, although your appearance will form other peoples opinion of you before they even get the chance to talk to you.
 

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This happens to me too. I'm not gay, never had any homo experience, never want one. I don't act effeminate, I don't look effeminate. I have a deep voice, very manly features, so when I started getting the "are you gay?" question, I was confused just like you about what that was all about.

Turns out, it's likely that you're confident, charming, have a nice build and are attractive in appearance. Like gay guys stereotypically are. If you're not succumbing to the women's feminine charms, like most AFCs do, then they become curious as to why you're not falling for their wiles like other men typically do.

You're raising their sexual curiosity. So they ask, "Are you gay?"

Think: there are plenty of gay guys around. These women aren't going up to those guys to ask if they're gay. So it's not that their real reason is to ascertain your sexual orientation; the real reason is that they're sexually interested and trying to figure why it's not working for them. Why are you different than the typical man/AFC that they're used to?

Take it as a compliment. Most guys that are good looking, dress well, have nice bodies, have a personality, are charming, smart and don't drool over women and become wussy over them, are gay. That's all.

I had a tall, leggy, long haired, full lipped, big blue eyed gorgeous ex model in my face at a bar in NYC a few weeks back trying to lure me into a kiss, and I played with her, not giving in. I got the "Are you gay?" question tossed at me, because what guy would resist kissing her? I knew I could kiss her, so it wasn't like I had to. Long story short, later on, we made out the rest of the night. But I digress.

A good answer may be "What do you think?"
 

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Mr. Me said:
Take it as a compliment. Most guys that are good looking, dress well, have nice bodies, have a personality, are charming, smart and don't drool over women and become wussy over them, are gay. That's all.
LOL, once again a girl's ego makes waves.

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A good answer may be "What do you think?"
That's good, short circuits her and puts her on the defensive. You probably won't hear "because most guys would be dying to be with me why aren't you acting this way?".
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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