"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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a few girls asked if I was ghey

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Go grab one of these chicks and start making out with her. She might get into it. If not, say "you're hot, and I'm not gay. What do you expect me to do?"
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Yeah, the girls who asked really aren't the kind of girls I want to kiss.
 

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A few women have asked me that, and I just assume its because I look too good for them to believe I'm just a normal guy. Just take it as you're doing something right, because girls don't really judge guys off of how they act, and more so on how they appear and whatnot.
 

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ChapStick said:
first impression of me is that I'm gay....I carry myself in a strong masculine way.... I wear tight fitting designer clothing.
Something severely wrong with these statements.:down:
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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When you ask a woman out and she denies, you can say "I bet she´s gay"!!
 

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The Inside Man said:
Something severely wrong with these statements.:down:
Hear me out, because I'm not sure you got my message correctly. I'm basically conveying to people that they should look and dress in a way that makes them feel confident. Who cares what other people think?

Oh, and what's wrong with fitted clothing? I happen to think they make me look good. Look at the brand Diesel and their clothing. Most of their jeans are made to fit closely to the body. I look at appearance as a way to express ones-self. While my look may not be very unique (hardly anything is nowadays), I do stand out from the rest of the crowd. It's how you carry yourself that makes you who you are, although your appearance will form other peoples opinion of you before they even get the chance to talk to you.
 

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This happens to me too. I'm not gay, never had any homo experience, never want one. I don't act effeminate, I don't look effeminate. I have a deep voice, very manly features, so when I started getting the "are you gay?" question, I was confused just like you about what that was all about.

Turns out, it's likely that you're confident, charming, have a nice build and are attractive in appearance. Like gay guys stereotypically are. If you're not succumbing to the women's feminine charms, like most AFCs do, then they become curious as to why you're not falling for their wiles like other men typically do.

You're raising their sexual curiosity. So they ask, "Are you gay?"

Think: there are plenty of gay guys around. These women aren't going up to those guys to ask if they're gay. So it's not that their real reason is to ascertain your sexual orientation; the real reason is that they're sexually interested and trying to figure why it's not working for them. Why are you different than the typical man/AFC that they're used to?

Take it as a compliment. Most guys that are good looking, dress well, have nice bodies, have a personality, are charming, smart and don't drool over women and become wussy over them, are gay. That's all.

I had a tall, leggy, long haired, full lipped, big blue eyed gorgeous ex model in my face at a bar in NYC a few weeks back trying to lure me into a kiss, and I played with her, not giving in. I got the "Are you gay?" question tossed at me, because what guy would resist kissing her? I knew I could kiss her, so it wasn't like I had to. Long story short, later on, we made out the rest of the night. But I digress.

A good answer may be "What do you think?"
 

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Mr. Me said:
Take it as a compliment. Most guys that are good looking, dress well, have nice bodies, have a personality, are charming, smart and don't drool over women and become wussy over them, are gay. That's all.
LOL, once again a girl's ego makes waves.

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A good answer may be "What do you think?"
That's good, short circuits her and puts her on the defensive. You probably won't hear "because most guys would be dying to be with me why aren't you acting this way?".
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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