"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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A female 'friend' of mine...I'm in for it now. Crap.

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I guess I'm just posting this to get it off my chest. Or because I'm not sure what the f*ck happened.

A female friend of mine, who happens to be my ex-gf's best friend...(the ex that prompted me to come here) and I were out drinking. A lot. Just bullsh*tting, hanging out as we have a million times before. This girl is a friend. Repeat, friend.

Well, we both went to her place and ended up having sex. Never been attracted to her like that. I don't have feelings for her, we just ended up in the sack for no reason. I've known this girl for like 12 years.

Neither one of said a word. It just literally straight f*cking happened. And when it was over, neither one of us said anything.

The next day she made me promise to never tell my ex.

I feel kinda guilty.

Thanks for letting me vent.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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You feel guilty? Don't be, you did what was suppose to happen.

See you cannot cheat nature forever. Nature did not intened for a guy and a girl who have some attraction between them to sit and hang out for long periods of time with nothing to happen. You two wanted this to have happen but you needed excuse to do it by consuming alcohol.

What is done is done, what are you going to do about it?? either continue with it (fvckbuddy) or get rid of her. The biggest mistake would be to pretend it never happen and try to go back of being a friend. You will both drive each other insane.

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DJDamage said:
You feel guilty? Don't be, you did what was suppose to happen.

See you cannot cheat nature forever. Nature did not intened for a guy and a girl who have some attraction between them to sit and hang out for long periods of time with nothing to happen. You two wanted this to have happen but you needed excuse to do it by consuming alcohol.
:up: This guy sounds like PuertoRican_Lover - he is spot on!
 

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Er,, why you feel guilty ?

You feel bad that you're going to ruin a friendship ?

Worried about what ex will think cuz you still like her ?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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guilty?

haha,

Well at least we know who the CATCHER was last night when they did it.

J/p, but dude seriously you sound like a chick man, this was supposed to happen like he said, guys and girls were not supposed to be friends, especially ones that are attracted to each other, because one or both of you have always thought about this and thats what happens and should happen.
 

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yeah, why do you even care what your EX thinks.. she's your EX. This chick is now Fair Game. Regardless if she likes it or not

Ex has something to say about it? Tough sh!t.. you can't have your cake (breaking up with me to **** other guys) and eat it too (I can't date/**** who I want) it's a give and take.

**** her again.. in the ass this time just to let her know you ment it
 

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lol if you had no feelings... shes bunk

aka don't tell anyone cause its embarassing, not because of your g/f :)
 

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There is absolutely no reason why you should regret it! Even if it was a mistake,they happen. You can't live your life worrying about stuff like that. I wish my old lady friends friends slept with me...lucky bastard.
 

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coolguy676767 said:
guilty?

haha,

Well at least we know who the CATCHER was last night when they did it.

J/p, but dude seriously you sound like a chick man, this was supposed to happen like he said, guys and girls were not supposed to be friends, especially ones that are attracted to each other, because one or both of you have always thought about this and thats what happens and should happen.

Okay, okay, point taken, LMAO.


The only reason I feel bad is because first off, it wasn't worth it......


I'm just saying.....think about the last chick in the world you'd think you'd f*ck....then........Oh, hell.

I'm just weirded out.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Sh!t, I've been through this scenario quite a few times.

Don't feel guilty and do NOT act like it never happened. It did and both of you wanted it to happen wether you admit it or not.

She could potentially become a fvck buddy or you can just leave it all behind you and move on.

Don't worry about your ex...... Anyone is fair game after the breakup is official and final. Just depends on your own morals.. some people would see this as wrong. I don't.
 

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was she hot
 

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HB 7.......

Nothing special......

I wasn't trying to hit.

I was trying to drink.

Look, this was more of a 'get it off my chest thing'......This girl and I are FRIENDS, I never wanna take it farther than that. Neither does she, I'm sure of it.

I'm just a little shocked because she's a -very- close friend of the EX (and no, I don't still have feelings for the ex :whistle: ).

Maybe I should lay off the hard liquor and....among other things I'm not too proud of consuming that night.
 
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