"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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A female 'friend' of mine...I'm in for it now. Crap.

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I guess I'm just posting this to get it off my chest. Or because I'm not sure what the f*ck happened.

A female friend of mine, who happens to be my ex-gf's best friend...(the ex that prompted me to come here) and I were out drinking. A lot. Just bullsh*tting, hanging out as we have a million times before. This girl is a friend. Repeat, friend.

Well, we both went to her place and ended up having sex. Never been attracted to her like that. I don't have feelings for her, we just ended up in the sack for no reason. I've known this girl for like 12 years.

Neither one of said a word. It just literally straight f*cking happened. And when it was over, neither one of us said anything.

The next day she made me promise to never tell my ex.

I feel kinda guilty.

Thanks for letting me vent.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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You feel guilty? Don't be, you did what was suppose to happen.

See you cannot cheat nature forever. Nature did not intened for a guy and a girl who have some attraction between them to sit and hang out for long periods of time with nothing to happen. You two wanted this to have happen but you needed excuse to do it by consuming alcohol.

What is done is done, what are you going to do about it?? either continue with it (fvckbuddy) or get rid of her. The biggest mistake would be to pretend it never happen and try to go back of being a friend. You will both drive each other insane.

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DJDamage said:
You feel guilty? Don't be, you did what was suppose to happen.

See you cannot cheat nature forever. Nature did not intened for a guy and a girl who have some attraction between them to sit and hang out for long periods of time with nothing to happen. You two wanted this to have happen but you needed excuse to do it by consuming alcohol.
:up: This guy sounds like PuertoRican_Lover - he is spot on!
 

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Er,, why you feel guilty ?

You feel bad that you're going to ruin a friendship ?

Worried about what ex will think cuz you still like her ?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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guilty?

haha,

Well at least we know who the CATCHER was last night when they did it.

J/p, but dude seriously you sound like a chick man, this was supposed to happen like he said, guys and girls were not supposed to be friends, especially ones that are attracted to each other, because one or both of you have always thought about this and thats what happens and should happen.
 

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yeah, why do you even care what your EX thinks.. she's your EX. This chick is now Fair Game. Regardless if she likes it or not

Ex has something to say about it? Tough sh!t.. you can't have your cake (breaking up with me to **** other guys) and eat it too (I can't date/**** who I want) it's a give and take.

**** her again.. in the ass this time just to let her know you ment it
 

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lol if you had no feelings... shes bunk

aka don't tell anyone cause its embarassing, not because of your g/f :)
 

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There is absolutely no reason why you should regret it! Even if it was a mistake,they happen. You can't live your life worrying about stuff like that. I wish my old lady friends friends slept with me...lucky bastard.
 

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coolguy676767 said:
guilty?

haha,

Well at least we know who the CATCHER was last night when they did it.

J/p, but dude seriously you sound like a chick man, this was supposed to happen like he said, guys and girls were not supposed to be friends, especially ones that are attracted to each other, because one or both of you have always thought about this and thats what happens and should happen.

Okay, okay, point taken, LMAO.


The only reason I feel bad is because first off, it wasn't worth it......


I'm just saying.....think about the last chick in the world you'd think you'd f*ck....then........Oh, hell.

I'm just weirded out.
 

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Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Sh!t, I've been through this scenario quite a few times.

Don't feel guilty and do NOT act like it never happened. It did and both of you wanted it to happen wether you admit it or not.

She could potentially become a fvck buddy or you can just leave it all behind you and move on.

Don't worry about your ex...... Anyone is fair game after the breakup is official and final. Just depends on your own morals.. some people would see this as wrong. I don't.
 

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was she hot
 

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HB 7.......

Nothing special......

I wasn't trying to hit.

I was trying to drink.

Look, this was more of a 'get it off my chest thing'......This girl and I are FRIENDS, I never wanna take it farther than that. Neither does she, I'm sure of it.

I'm just a little shocked because she's a -very- close friend of the EX (and no, I don't still have feelings for the ex :whistle: ).

Maybe I should lay off the hard liquor and....among other things I'm not too proud of consuming that night.
 
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