Burnout92
Don Juan
- Joined
- Nov 27, 2016
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You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
That was a very short sighted and unmotivated article.
First he uses statistics from survey to highlight his point, then he uses anecdotes. Statistics are unreliable and people lie on them all the time." Well this female said I am experienced and she only been with 3 guys ever" He implies this proves his point women are not that promiscuous, while I do agree some of these guys like roosh might be targeting sexually frustrated men by selling books and their viewpoints about women may be a bit harsh. If I were to provide my anecdotes it would be completely different. People are having sex left and right with out protection, orgies in seedy hotels, trains being ran on 1 or 2 female....its happening. When I was going out with my boys to bars and clubs one night stands happened often, if it wasn't me it was with someone else in the group. It was pretty even.....
This article comes from a very naive person
You're just proving my pointAh, but that's the availability heuristic. You and your boys smashed girls at the bar all the time so surely all girls will bang strangers
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Once you grow up and look around you, that is the norm nowadays and not the exception.According to the puas and manoshpere, every guy in a relationship/marriage is either getting cheated on or waiting on a ticking time bomb.
I follow what you are saying and I do see this from some posters on this site, but not all. Roughly, it feels like a 30/30/30 split with the remaining 10 being new to the site, and too green to know what category they want to be in/fit in. There are men who genuinely want to develop self esteem and up their game, there are men who are (seem to be) gaming like a DJ and want to report on their adventures, get feedback and continue to grow, and there are men who are MGTOW/red pill and want to convince all other men that women are lying slvts and not to be trusted, you'll never find a gem, just use them and and toss.Now that I think of it, the manoshpere is kind of like a religious cult. The manoshpere uses so many preconceive notions to make it seem like every other person is damned unless they follow the manoshpere ideology. Every woman is a lying slut. Every guy in a relationship is getting cheated on lol. No man is safe from danger unless he swallows the red pill and follows the manosphere ideology. Last, they act like men are innocent human beings that are victims of feminism and liberalism.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.