Burnout92
Don Juan
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That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
That was a very short sighted and unmotivated article.
First he uses statistics from survey to highlight his point, then he uses anecdotes. Statistics are unreliable and people lie on them all the time." Well this female said I am experienced and she only been with 3 guys ever" He implies this proves his point women are not that promiscuous, while I do agree some of these guys like roosh might be targeting sexually frustrated men by selling books and their viewpoints about women may be a bit harsh. If I were to provide my anecdotes it would be completely different. People are having sex left and right with out protection, orgies in seedy hotels, trains being ran on 1 or 2 female....its happening. When I was going out with my boys to bars and clubs one night stands happened often, if it wasn't me it was with someone else in the group. It was pretty even.....
This article comes from a very naive person
You're just proving my pointAh, but that's the availability heuristic. You and your boys smashed girls at the bar all the time so surely all girls will bang strangers
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Once you grow up and look around you, that is the norm nowadays and not the exception.According to the puas and manoshpere, every guy in a relationship/marriage is either getting cheated on or waiting on a ticking time bomb.
I follow what you are saying and I do see this from some posters on this site, but not all. Roughly, it feels like a 30/30/30 split with the remaining 10 being new to the site, and too green to know what category they want to be in/fit in. There are men who genuinely want to develop self esteem and up their game, there are men who are (seem to be) gaming like a DJ and want to report on their adventures, get feedback and continue to grow, and there are men who are MGTOW/red pill and want to convince all other men that women are lying slvts and not to be trusted, you'll never find a gem, just use them and and toss.Now that I think of it, the manoshpere is kind of like a religious cult. The manoshpere uses so many preconceive notions to make it seem like every other person is damned unless they follow the manoshpere ideology. Every woman is a lying slut. Every guy in a relationship is getting cheated on lol. No man is safe from danger unless he swallows the red pill and follows the manosphere ideology. Last, they act like men are innocent human beings that are victims of feminism and liberalism.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.