Hey there,
Me and a friend have collected from 4 women in my circle some of the phrases that those, who have "tumultuous" relationship, publish on their social media as a form of "self-validation".
Those men actually share some characteristics: very arrogant, insecure, they raise their voice, at the same time that could look like irrationally confident, but those men all have the same issue: she is their weakness, so they kind of breakup or have frequent turmoil, then they come back to solve the issue, and get back togheter, because they can't go their way alone. And this kind of thing, which actually should be a weakness, is what women are considering "He can't really live without me = I'm important to him, and only".
As You may notice, those are not the ideal mature man that are described here in Sosuave, but still those men are actually making long term relationships with women, and kind of generating oneitis in them.
So here is the list we collected in 2 year of observation:
Me and a friend have collected from 4 women in my circle some of the phrases that those, who have "tumultuous" relationship, publish on their social media as a form of "self-validation".
Those men actually share some characteristics: very arrogant, insecure, they raise their voice, at the same time that could look like irrationally confident, but those men all have the same issue: she is their weakness, so they kind of breakup or have frequent turmoil, then they come back to solve the issue, and get back togheter, because they can't go their way alone. And this kind of thing, which actually should be a weakness, is what women are considering "He can't really live without me = I'm important to him, and only".
As You may notice, those are not the ideal mature man that are described here in Sosuave, but still those men are actually making long term relationships with women, and kind of generating oneitis in them.
So here is the list we collected in 2 year of observation:
He makes me feel alive. Yeah, we argue, and sure, his impertinence drives me crazy sometimes, but when I'm with him, I feel complete. I feel like I can completely let my guard down and not have to worry about being hurt or taken advantage of, or even be afraid, because Garrett Graham will always be there to love and protect me.
You mean so much to me that I can't think, I can't even breathe, when we're together."
People who have never received love are the hardest to love."
"Why?" she asked softly. "Because they don't let themselves be loved. They shy away."
"What do you want me to tell you?" I raised my voice, losing my mind. "That I can't stop thinking about her? That I'm obsessed with her? That I want nothing more than to be with her all the time? That I know she's too beautiful, too young, too everything for me, but I don't care because I can't breathe without her?"
It was a ****ing risk, but that's life, a constant risk. You have to dare, stay in the water, and swim further and further. Always push your limits. I don't care what the rest of the world thinks. In life, you can be someone or blend in with the crowd; there's no middle ground.
I know nothing about feelings or relationships. But I'm starting to learn one thing: it doesn't have to be easy. It has to be all-encompassing, adventurous, passionate, disorienting, irrational, unconditional, crazy.
It was the tactic of the weak man, so insecure and jealous of his woman that he made her feel insecure, belittling her in the eyes of others, and we, women in love, would always fall for it. Because when you're in love, you see your life together, no matter how disgusting and sad it may be, through rose-colored, heart-shaped glasses. You can't freeze the frame and watch the movie you've made in your head as a spectator.
Take a risk and fall in love with a man for whom you're the cog that makes his world turn.
"If the right woman takes care of him, even the meanest man becomes good. Well, that's bull****. But we've been told it so well that we've all believed it, and when we meet an *******, we think we can save him. But real life doesn't end with happily ever after."
