"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I've posted a few simple questions on here before but here is my situation. I've always been social in high school I know everyone and everyone knows me. I've read the bible over and over yet I feel like I'm burdened for already knowing so many people because I'm already "friended" by all of them. I've been told I'm a flirt, so not knowing how to do that isn't an issue. I can't seem to figure out why I'm always being friended. My friends have great game and I try to learn a bit from them, but I still can't seem to get it down. I honestly do better with girls I'll meet that already graduated from the crappy high school environment.

Thank guys
Jake
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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And lately I've had some crap to deal with when it deals wth family. So I feel like I'm almost becoming a little AFC again and going away from DJ. I start boxing classes Saturday so I'm hoping the new hobby helps on top of heavy lifting.
 

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Start closing. Are you doing basic stuff like touching, eye contact, confidence and so on?
A flirt generally doesn't follow up on girls he flirts with; follow up on them. Close, talk, meet up. Also a flirt might be giving mixed signals
 

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Jakeg123 said:
I've posted a few simple questions on here before but here is my situation. I've always been social in high school I know everyone and everyone knows me. I've read the bible over and over yet I feel like I'm burdened for already knowing so many people because I'm already "friended" by all of them. I've been told I'm a flirt, so not knowing how to do that isn't an issue. I can't seem to figure out why I'm always being friended. My friends have great game and I try to learn a bit from them, but I still can't seem to get it down. I honestly do better with girls I'll meet that already graduated from the crappy high school environment.

Thank guys
Jake
I see no problem here. High school is only the beginning of the rest of your life!
 

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Ya kino, eye contact, confidence all that stuff. I have a day or a couple hours where I'll be in a ****ty mood which may come off as less confident. I honestly just find it annoying that all I hear about is how hot some of my friends are haha. I'm a good loOking kid(I'm not floating my own boat here) and I put on almost 20 pounds of muscle so I'm not nearly as skinny as I was.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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