"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Hi

How do you ask a girl out that you are really good friends with without ruining the friendship. Theres this girl I like, and we hang around together all the time, and go to the cinema just the two of us. How do I ask her (to be my girlfriend), if she says no, i think it could ruin a perfectly good friendship!
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Thanks Shezz, thats kinda what I was thinking! Sounds the right thing to do, can I ask something though, why is it the girl who asks, surely she could be waiting for me to ask her to become 'mutually exclusive'.

thanks for all the help anyway!

Cheers!
 

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Secondly you have to do things that make her want you sexually and not put you into the LJBF zone. Chances are if your already good friends and you don't want to ruin the friendship, your heavy into LJBF zone. You have to start doing things, subtley at first, to make yourself attractive in a sexual sense.
 

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Cheers for that :rock: if any1 els has further advice let me know, i dnt think im in the ljbf zone (yet!), im c&f all the time, so we'll have to wait and see!

let me know any further advice!
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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