"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Hi

How do you ask a girl out that you are really good friends with without ruining the friendship. Theres this girl I like, and we hang around together all the time, and go to the cinema just the two of us. How do I ask her (to be my girlfriend), if she says no, i think it could ruin a perfectly good friendship!
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Thanks Shezz, thats kinda what I was thinking! Sounds the right thing to do, can I ask something though, why is it the girl who asks, surely she could be waiting for me to ask her to become 'mutually exclusive'.

thanks for all the help anyway!

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Secondly you have to do things that make her want you sexually and not put you into the LJBF zone. Chances are if your already good friends and you don't want to ruin the friendship, your heavy into LJBF zone. You have to start doing things, subtley at first, to make yourself attractive in a sexual sense.
 

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Cheers for that :rock: if any1 els has further advice let me know, i dnt think im in the ljbf zone (yet!), im c&f all the time, so we'll have to wait and see!

let me know any further advice!
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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