"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
65 Things I Learned From Dating
- Thread starter Colossus
- Start date
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
King of Action
Don Juan
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38. Don’t date women who ask you little about yourself.
45. Undesirable women come in countless flavors and colors. In general, do not date divorced women, single mothers, addicts, women with ANY mental health issues, eating disorders, or abusive pasts.
I learned about this site when I was married to my ex-wife. I took for granted communication in relationships. Fellas make it a must she has interest in you and your life. When I used to have communication time with my ex-wife, she would cut me off and ask for a kiss or it would turn into sex. I thought that was cool being married and she was showing a lot of interest still in me.
Low-and-be-hold, after our divorce my eyes and perspective woke up. The reason she cut me off during communication time like she did because, I realize (it's called Low Emotional Quotient) she has adult stage Attention Deficit Disorder. I didn't see it when I was married, however, I ask her questions now, her answers are way way way off the subject about what I was saying. I kick myself not paying attention to her and then married a woman like that. UGH!!!
logicallefty
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So in other words, don't date women at all and we should all become fags?King of Action said:
I say this in a joking manor Sir, not sarcaticlly.
But this pretty much takes are of all women, at least Western ones. I think many of us are in the same boat as you, I know I am. We found this site at a good time but it would have been better had we found it sooner.
logicallefty
Moderator
So in other words, don't date women at all and we should all become gay?King of Action said:
I say this in a joking manor Sir, not sarcaticlly.
But this pretty much takes are of all women, at least Western ones. I think many of us are in the same boat as you, I know I am. We found this site at a good time but it would have been better had we found it sooner.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.