Francisco d'Anconia
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What do you think gives guys the most confidence before they hook up with women? What do you think gives guys confidence after they break up? See a pattern here?ValleyDJing said:
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
6 Things that Make You Irresistable to Women!
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
ValleyDJing
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Francisco d'Anconia said:What do you think gives guys the most confidence before they hook up with women? What do you think gives guys confidence after they break up? See a pattern here?
So are you saying i'm wrong or right?
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
I'm not telling...ValleyDJing said:So are you saying i'm wrong or right?
ValleyDJing
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Francisco d'Anconia said:I'm not telling...
lol! I hate you coy bastards!!
MooseGod
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What do you define as "rich?" I know a few people who worked for decent-paying (60k+) companies their whole lives, got stock options, made sound financial decisions and retired with at least a million in the bank. May not be as glamorous as winning the lottery or hitting it big on Wall Street, but it's the way to financial independence for the average American.ChrizZ said:you can't get rich by working a job.
If your lazy a$$ did some research you would know more.
And don't tell me you can't do it... anybody can get financial aid and work their ass off to get through college if they are motivated enough. It's not fun, it's not easy, but it's entirely possible. If you don't have the credentials to get a good job, that's your own damn fault.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Gangster Of Love
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Those 6 things are good specifics for DANCE CLUBS/BARS TYPE OF SETTINGS. I seriously doubt it you're gonna pull a$$ by breaking out with your moves right in the middle of the mall or a book store.
Being a good dancer gives you much better posture, body movements and rhythm. It's a damn good topic to talk about and a great social proof by itself. Plus you're in constant contact with beautiful women (there's no ugly chick in higher levels - cos people only dance with hot ones and therefore they develop faster) which make you comfortable in interaction with them. Not to mention that the dance clubs are great places to pick up.Gangster Of Love said:Those 6 things are good specifics for DANCE CLUBS/BARS TYPE OF SETTINGS. I seriously doubt it you're gonna pull a$$ by breaking out with your moves right in the middle of the mall or a book store.
What type of dancing are you talking about?Jitterbug said:Being a good dancer gives you much better posture, body movements and rhythm. It's a damn good topic to talk about and a great social proof by itself. Plus you're in constant contact with beautiful women (there's no ugly chick in higher levels - cos people only dance with hot ones and therefore they develop faster) which make you comfortable in interaction with them. Not to mention that the dance clubs are great places to pick up.
I do swing, blues, tap, salsa and also dabble in half a dozen of other styles.wolf116 said:What type of dancing are you talking about?
comic_relief
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I love swing dancing and it ain't that hard at all. I learned west coast swing in less than two weeks.Jitterbug said:I do swing, blues, tap, salsa and also dabble in half a dozen of other styles.
comic_relief
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
comic_relief
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I will agree with you, but did you really need to rip apart my list.Joe The Homophobe said:When it all comes down to the NUMBER 1 thing is..CONFIDENCE!
1) you can be muscular yet not have the ballz to approach/not have the calibration to make what you say sound good, what you say matters most. Looking like a young Arnold is not going to make girls ask you out.
2) social proof = confidence, you don't need to know people just start talking to people and there you go, social proof
3) but if you're a puss and can't approach women it only makes you a nerd
4) you can make these up (dhv stories)
5) see above
6) see above
1.) don't worry, I got the ballz to approach
2.) Either way, I got it.
3.) I approach, and am still a nerd.
4.) yeah, true you could make them up, but they won't be nearly as good as the true stories.
5.) Same as a bove
6.) Same as above.
comic_relief
MooseGod said:What do you define as "rich?" I know a few people who worked for decent-paying (60k+) companies their whole lives, got stock options, made sound financial decisions and retired with at least a million in the bank. May not be as glamorous as winning the lottery or hitting it big on Wall Street, but it's the way to financial independence for the average American.
And don't tell me you can't do it... anybody can get financial aid and work their ass off to get through college if they are motivated enough. It's not fun, it's not easy, but it's entirely possible. If you don't have the credentials to get a good job, that's your own damn fault.
Rock on brother!
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Women love what other attractive women love! So try to be seen with 7s 8s and 9s as much as you can... Other women will run to you.
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NO MONEY IS NEVER A GOOD THING. EVEN RICH WOMEN WANT MEN WITH MONEY....MrS said:I win in all except dancing.
Am working on it!
Clothes I have good sense of style, but no money.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
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I agree with everything except the dancing part, it's a useful skill in some situations (clubs, etc) for some girls but once you get outside that scene it's not such a big deal. The rest I agree 100%.
Absolutely true. Women know deep down that basically they are all the same, maybe it's some sort of instinctive knowledge. In any case, if you''re with other women you must have passed their qualifications and therefore you are a catch.DonGorgon said:Women love what other attractive women love! So try to be seen with 7s 8s and 9s as much as you can... Other women will run to you.
Follow my 6 guidelines, you will be rich beyond your wildest dreams.DonGorgon said:NO MONEY IS NEVER A GOOD THING. EVEN RICH WOMEN WANT MEN WITH MONEY....
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This is true - initially it won't matter as much but a few hours in and it proves you are interested in *something*, good at *something* and able to commit to *something*, which women find interesting and they also seem to like having other things to try and compete with for your interests.ValleyDJing said:I would also add a 7th item to the list.
7. Develop a hobby/talent. Whether it be playing the drums, basketball, souping up a car, lifting weights...whatever. Do something that gives you an identity and an area of expertise.
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I DONT WANNA BE RICH I JUST WANNA PAY MY BILLS...LOLDonJuan11 said:Follow my 6 guidelines, you will be rich beyond your wildest dreams.
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Yup!ValleyDJing said:I would also add a 7th item to the list.
7. Develop a hobby/talent. Whether it be playing the drums, basketball, souping up a car, lifting weights...whatever. Do something that gives you an identity and an area of expertise.
Ever talked to a chick about her ex? She always keeps that connection. "Oh yeah, he was that really skilled basketball player...."
Or, just talk to a chick in general and when you meet up again she makes the connection by your interests?
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.