"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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6 Things that Make You Irresistable to Women!

Francisco d'Anconia

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ValleyDJing said:
I would also add a 7th item to the list.

7. Develop a hobby/talent. Whether it be playing the drums, basketball, souping up a car, lifting weights...whatever. Do something that gives you an identity and an area of expertise.
What do you think gives guys the most confidence before they hook up with women? What do you think gives guys confidence after they break up? See a pattern here?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Francisco d'Anconia said:
What do you think gives guys the most confidence before they hook up with women? What do you think gives guys confidence after they break up? See a pattern here?

So are you saying i'm wrong or right?
 

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ChrizZ said:
you can't get rich by working a job.

If your lazy a$$ did some research you would know more.
What do you define as "rich?" I know a few people who worked for decent-paying (60k+) companies their whole lives, got stock options, made sound financial decisions and retired with at least a million in the bank. May not be as glamorous as winning the lottery or hitting it big on Wall Street, but it's the way to financial independence for the average American.

And don't tell me you can't do it... anybody can get financial aid and work their ass off to get through college if they are motivated enough. It's not fun, it's not easy, but it's entirely possible. If you don't have the credentials to get a good job, that's your own damn fault.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Those 6 things are good specifics for DANCE CLUBS/BARS TYPE OF SETTINGS. I seriously doubt it you're gonna pull a$$ by breaking out with your moves right in the middle of the mall or a book store.
 

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Gangster Of Love said:
Those 6 things are good specifics for DANCE CLUBS/BARS TYPE OF SETTINGS. I seriously doubt it you're gonna pull a$$ by breaking out with your moves right in the middle of the mall or a book store.
Being a good dancer gives you much better posture, body movements and rhythm. It's a damn good topic to talk about and a great social proof by itself. Plus you're in constant contact with beautiful women (there's no ugly chick in higher levels - cos people only dance with hot ones and therefore they develop faster) which make you comfortable in interaction with them. Not to mention that the dance clubs are great places to pick up.
 

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Jitterbug said:
Being a good dancer gives you much better posture, body movements and rhythm. It's a damn good topic to talk about and a great social proof by itself. Plus you're in constant contact with beautiful women (there's no ugly chick in higher levels - cos people only dance with hot ones and therefore they develop faster) which make you comfortable in interaction with them. Not to mention that the dance clubs are great places to pick up.
What type of dancing are you talking about?
 

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wolf116 said:
What type of dancing are you talking about?
I do swing, blues, tap, salsa and also dabble in half a dozen of other styles.
 

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Jitterbug said:
I do swing, blues, tap, salsa and also dabble in half a dozen of other styles.
I love swing dancing and it ain't that hard at all. I learned west coast swing in less than two weeks.

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“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Joe The Homophobe said:
When it all comes down to the NUMBER 1 thing is..CONFIDENCE!
1) you can be muscular yet not have the ballz to approach/not have the calibration to make what you say sound good, what you say matters most. Looking like a young Arnold is not going to make girls ask you out.
2) social proof = confidence, you don't need to know people just start talking to people and there you go, social proof
3) but if you're a puss and can't approach women it only makes you a nerd
4) you can make these up (dhv stories)
5) see above
6) see above
I will agree with you, but did you really need to rip apart my list.

1.) don't worry, I got the ballz to approach
2.) Either way, I got it.
3.) I approach, and am still a nerd.
4.) yeah, true you could make them up, but they won't be nearly as good as the true stories.
5.) Same as a bove
6.) Same as above.

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MooseGod said:
What do you define as "rich?" I know a few people who worked for decent-paying (60k+) companies their whole lives, got stock options, made sound financial decisions and retired with at least a million in the bank. May not be as glamorous as winning the lottery or hitting it big on Wall Street, but it's the way to financial independence for the average American.

And don't tell me you can't do it... anybody can get financial aid and work their ass off to get through college if they are motivated enough. It's not fun, it's not easy, but it's entirely possible. If you don't have the credentials to get a good job, that's your own damn fault.

Rock on brother!
 

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I win in all except dancing.
Am working on it!
Clothes I have good sense of style, but no money.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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I agree with everything except the dancing part, it's a useful skill in some situations (clubs, etc) for some girls but once you get outside that scene it's not such a big deal. The rest I agree 100%.


DonGorgon said:
Women love what other attractive women love! So try to be seen with 7s 8s and 9s as much as you can... Other women will run to you.
Absolutely true. Women know deep down that basically they are all the same, maybe it's some sort of instinctive knowledge. In any case, if you''re with other women you must have passed their qualifications and therefore you are a catch.
 

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DonGorgon said:
NO MONEY IS NEVER A GOOD THING. EVEN RICH WOMEN WANT MEN WITH MONEY....
Follow my 6 guidelines, you will be rich beyond your wildest dreams.
 

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ValleyDJing said:
I would also add a 7th item to the list.

7. Develop a hobby/talent. Whether it be playing the drums, basketball, souping up a car, lifting weights...whatever. Do something that gives you an identity and an area of expertise.
This is true - initially it won't matter as much but a few hours in and it proves you are interested in *something*, good at *something* and able to commit to *something*, which women find interesting and they also seem to like having other things to try and compete with for your interests.
 

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ValleyDJing said:
I would also add a 7th item to the list.

7. Develop a hobby/talent. Whether it be playing the drums, basketball, souping up a car, lifting weights...whatever. Do something that gives you an identity and an area of expertise.
Yup!

Ever talked to a chick about her ex? She always keeps that connection. "Oh yeah, he was that really skilled basketball player...."

Or, just talk to a chick in general and when you meet up again she makes the connection by your interests?
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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