She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
zekko said:Anybody want to try to make me feel good about that?
Lol.
Being 30 is definitely better than being 20 IMO.romangod said:I retired in my late 40s and life is a blast
I have found that women pursue me more now that I'm older, but I still don't think it happens as often as it shouldromangod said:Women are plentiful with the added luxury of firmly believing that I'm the prize. I don't pursue women, they pursue me.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Yup ^^squirrels said:At 50, you should be mature enough to know better than to feel down about being 50.
Just keep living.
At 50, you should be mature enough not to be hanging around on a pickup forumsquirrels said:At 50, you should be mature enough to know better than to feel down about being 50
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
What's the problem I was just saying hi, lol? If I'm interrupting this moment of epiphany (or grown folks time) I'ill just come back later, lol. All I can say is that I hope at 50 I have someone I can home to and they are still happy to see me.survivorman said:@jafyk,
Why you little...!!!
When you're young you think being 50 is about looking back. But when you're 50 you're concerned about getting on with your life.all I hope is I am alive at 50, "feel" wealthy when I look back and feel content about my life
Atom Smasher said:I find it interesting that I've noticed in the past couple of years that the young whippersnappers here on SS (and I definitely say that affectionately) are showing a lot more respect and are valuing our advice much more highly.
I'm not sure why that is, but it's good to see. When I was younger (heck, I'm still young AFAIC), I always looked to older folks for their wisdom. Maybe they would sometimes seem a little crotchety and eccentric, but I knew enough to eat the meat of their wisdom and spit out the bones.
I'd love to write more, but I've got to go and change my "Depends".
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.