You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
2nd this. I raced off-road motorcycles at the highest levels for 25-years. And still Mtn bike on an empty stomach. I Only eat from 7:00 to 9:00 PM every stinking day. If you're new to fasting I suggest acclimating yourself and get used to how your carburetors work. Once you know your system fully, then rock on better than before. Welcome to better health.
I don't work out fasting. I did 20hrs and my lift was pathetic. Do a 4day split or 5. Use fasting on your off days. I lift or more accurately do calisthenics with gym closures. Test out and see what you respond to from training. 16hr fasts I can train no problem.
Im heavy squatting on a 20 hour fast.
I've done 7 days its fine with great results.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
fasting on off days is goat status
I have started fasting in before pandemic and lock down 1.0. We're on what iteration 3 or 4 and I am going strong still. Home gym is next level motivation level. I had a 6x split in summer and spring. Running 4x atm.
It doesn't matter...for that duration there won't be a huge negative effect, I used to do it all the time. However I would recommend PerfectAmino...noticed a big difference when fasting and taking that while working out versus not..basically only has 2 calories per serving but gives you the equivalent of 30g of protein via amino acids.
I used to workout fasted all the time and some of those days were my best lifting days. Lack of hydration is a far bigger cause of muscle failure than fasting.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
I wasn't putting up a 3 plate bench natty or any PRs on a 24+ hour fast. I can't speak for everyone but It ruins my routine. You can use fit note and other apps that will give you the analytics on the workout. The data was less then spectacular for me. Power to you if you see NO change but it seems pretty apparent that there has got to be a differencein outcomes. Your food is your fuel. Even if it's more mental, the experience has been less then spectacular. I will mix it in but if it's a hell workout, no chance of it on fasting.
Glycogen and ATP is your fuel while lifting, not food. Food eventually replenishes this, but the body will simply break down fat stores to access the materials it needs short term in the same way it does with food.
No PRs for me was enough to opt out or adjust my schedule. I'll run fasting 16-24 hours. I will lift but if I am trying break plateaus, I will eat first. Just getting through the workout is hell never mind setting personal records or more reps.
I mean, you aren't hitting PRs every workout. Or at least you shouldn't be if you have been lifting for a long enough time.
I can increase either reps, weight even if only a little, and some improvement. Yes, the odd fallback but, I noticed a drastic decline in output on a fast. I didn't feel strong particularly at the 20-24+ range. For example, on chest day, 20+ hour fast, there was no 3plate bench. it was torture trying to finish. I would add, the analytics were similar to being really under slept. Grante, I am over a year in on intermittent fasting so, I am getting better with it. I'm doing calisthenics, gymnastic ring workouts, bar work, and functional activities. I was pissed with consecutive lock downs but the transition to calis has been amazing for my joints and aesthetics. Intermittent fasting, 8hrs of sleep, calis, and clean eating has been a game changer.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
