Would it be verging on ridiculous if, if she ticked no, I gave her another blank one, and repeated the process untill she ticked yes?MacAvoy said:Send her a note, on it write "Check yes or no"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Would it be verging on ridiculous if, if she ticked no, I gave her another blank one, and repeated the process untill she ticked yes?MacAvoy said:Send her a note, on it write "Check yes or no"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Like I said I've done it before, and failed. I also hint at it all the time to her, and I tend to get positive reactions.CrunchyNut said:If you wont ask her out then we cant do anything. At least if you do you will know one way or another. Stop being a wuss and do it!
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
I'm willing to listen, and with the exception of this girl; I'm far from an insecure personality, although I will admit with this girl I am.Ray said:If you won't ask her out because it would look like "3 steps back" (it looks like 3 steps forward to me at least, but that's me), then try to build up a situation in which you can kiss her. If she doesn't try to evade like a crazy maniac, it is done.
Even if she tries to evade a little at first, push it a little more, she'll eventually fall to it, specially if you're a good kisser. But don't overpush or maybe she'll get scared, although that's less possible if you built up the situation properly (so your kiss looks natural and not surprising and out of place).
In any case, giving your state of mind and insecurity and big big fear of rejection because she rejected you 3 (3!!!!!!) years ago, I think it's a waste of time to counsel you, because there's a 90% chance that you won't do anything finally and you'll stay at this same state for some more years while that girl gets banged by others.