Would it be verging on ridiculous if, if she ticked no, I gave her another blank one, and repeated the process untill she ticked yes?MacAvoy said:Send her a note, on it write "Check yes or no"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Would it be verging on ridiculous if, if she ticked no, I gave her another blank one, and repeated the process untill she ticked yes?MacAvoy said:Send her a note, on it write "Check yes or no"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Like I said I've done it before, and failed. I also hint at it all the time to her, and I tend to get positive reactions.CrunchyNut said:If you wont ask her out then we cant do anything. At least if you do you will know one way or another. Stop being a wuss and do it!
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
I'm willing to listen, and with the exception of this girl; I'm far from an insecure personality, although I will admit with this girl I am.Ray said:If you won't ask her out because it would look like "3 steps back" (it looks like 3 steps forward to me at least, but that's me), then try to build up a situation in which you can kiss her. If she doesn't try to evade like a crazy maniac, it is done.
Even if she tries to evade a little at first, push it a little more, she'll eventually fall to it, specially if you're a good kisser. But don't overpush or maybe she'll get scared, although that's less possible if you built up the situation properly (so your kiss looks natural and not surprising and out of place).
In any case, giving your state of mind and insecurity and big big fear of rejection because she rejected you 3 (3!!!!!!) years ago, I think it's a waste of time to counsel you, because there's a 90% chance that you won't do anything finally and you'll stay at this same state for some more years while that girl gets banged by others.