"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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MacAvoy said:
Send her a note, on it write "Check yes or no"
Would it be verging on ridiculous if, if she ticked no, I gave her another blank one, and repeated the process untill she ticked yes?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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this isnt 2nd grade. follow these 2 simple steps, and she might end up yours.

Step 1: Grab balls
Step 2: Be a man and go for it
 

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If you wont ask her out then we cant do anything. At least if you do you will know one way or another. Stop being a wuss and do it!
 

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CrunchyNut said:
If you wont ask her out then we cant do anything. At least if you do you will know one way or another. Stop being a wuss and do it!
Like I said I've done it before, and failed. I also hint at it all the time to her, and I tend to get positive reactions.
If its worth anything, she tells her friends 'he annoys me sometimes"
We are pretty close, so asking her out will be very weird given that we are so close, its like taking 3 steps back.
 

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If you won't ask her out because it would look like "3 steps back" (it looks like 3 steps forward to me at least, but that's me), then try to build up a situation in which you can kiss her. If she doesn't try to evade like a crazy maniac, it is done.

Even if she tries to evade a little at first, push it a little more, she'll eventually fall to it, specially if you're a good kisser. But don't overpush or maybe she'll get scared, although that's less possible if you built up the situation properly (so your kiss looks natural and not surprising and out of place).


In any case, giving your state of mind and insecurity and big big fear of rejection because she rejected you 3 (3!!!!!!) years ago, I think it's a waste of time to counsel you, because there's a 90% chance that you won't do anything finally and you'll stay at this same state for some more years while that girl gets banged by others.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Ray said:
If you won't ask her out because it would look like "3 steps back" (it looks like 3 steps forward to me at least, but that's me), then try to build up a situation in which you can kiss her. If she doesn't try to evade like a crazy maniac, it is done.

Even if she tries to evade a little at first, push it a little more, she'll eventually fall to it, specially if you're a good kisser. But don't overpush or maybe she'll get scared, although that's less possible if you built up the situation properly (so your kiss looks natural and not surprising and out of place).


In any case, giving your state of mind and insecurity and big big fear of rejection because she rejected you 3 (3!!!!!!) years ago, I think it's a waste of time to counsel you, because there's a 90% chance that you won't do anything finally and you'll stay at this same state for some more years while that girl gets banged by others.
I'm willing to listen, and with the exception of this girl; I'm far from an insecure personality, although I will admit with this girl I am.
We were saying goodbye to each other the other day, and I was on the top of the pavement (sidewalk) and she was below (getting into a cab) she kissed my cheek, and I slipped down (genuinly an accident), so she ended up kissing my neck, she says "Why did you just make me kiss your neck? You're drunk... (playfully)" Perhaps this gives some indication as to whether she would accept the kiss.
 
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