Would it be verging on ridiculous if, if she ticked no, I gave her another blank one, and repeated the process untill she ticked yes?MacAvoy said:Send her a note, on it write "Check yes or no"
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Would it be verging on ridiculous if, if she ticked no, I gave her another blank one, and repeated the process untill she ticked yes?MacAvoy said:Send her a note, on it write "Check yes or no"
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Like I said I've done it before, and failed. I also hint at it all the time to her, and I tend to get positive reactions.CrunchyNut said:If you wont ask her out then we cant do anything. At least if you do you will know one way or another. Stop being a wuss and do it!
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
I'm willing to listen, and with the exception of this girl; I'm far from an insecure personality, although I will admit with this girl I am.Ray said:If you won't ask her out because it would look like "3 steps back" (it looks like 3 steps forward to me at least, but that's me), then try to build up a situation in which you can kiss her. If she doesn't try to evade like a crazy maniac, it is done.
Even if she tries to evade a little at first, push it a little more, she'll eventually fall to it, specially if you're a good kisser. But don't overpush or maybe she'll get scared, although that's less possible if you built up the situation properly (so your kiss looks natural and not surprising and out of place).
In any case, giving your state of mind and insecurity and big big fear of rejection because she rejected you 3 (3!!!!!!) years ago, I think it's a waste of time to counsel you, because there's a 90% chance that you won't do anything finally and you'll stay at this same state for some more years while that girl gets banged by others.