intel200
Don Juan
My girl and I are interested in DJing single girls for a 3sum experience. So far we have tried the internet and have terrible results. The same goes for a few local chat lines. Anyone have any helpful hints?
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
3sum anyone?
- Thread starter intel200
- Start date
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
spider_007
Master Don Juan
bars nightclubs?????
the hardest thing is to get your g/f to agree
the easiest thing; to find another ho to do it with.
the hardest thing is to get your g/f to agree
the easiest thing; to find another ho to do it with.
intel200
Don Juan
Ok, elaborate a bit. My girl is a full participant in this one, so that hurdle has been crossed. How exactly would you approach a girl while looking for a 3sum? And SHAME ON YOU ALL WHO ARE VIEWING AND NOT RESPONDING!
diablo
Master Don Juan
Chat line? Internet? Whatever happened to looking for girls in real life? You know, that thing off of the computer?
Hell, a friend of mine (who's girlfriend has been with mine - a few pictures are floating in a thread around here somewhere) called me last Friday night to say that they (him and his) were going to a gay club to find a girl to have a 3-some with. Guess what... the next day he told me that they didn't have any problem at all - they found one, did the deed, and she had left before morning light. So perhaps you should try clubs - their reasoning behind a gay club was that oftentimes lesbians and bi chicks go there too, and since by it's very definition a club like that has to attract people who are more obvious with their sexuality than a normal bar...
One last thing, the only way this is going to work is if your girlfriend is attractive - that is, unless you want to pick up not so great looking girls...
Hell, a friend of mine (who's girlfriend has been with mine - a few pictures are floating in a thread around here somewhere) called me last Friday night to say that they (him and his) were going to a gay club to find a girl to have a 3-some with. Guess what... the next day he told me that they didn't have any problem at all - they found one, did the deed, and she had left before morning light. So perhaps you should try clubs - their reasoning behind a gay club was that oftentimes lesbians and bi chicks go there too, and since by it's very definition a club like that has to attract people who are more obvious with their sexuality than a normal bar...
One last thing, the only way this is going to work is if your girlfriend is attractive - that is, unless you want to pick up not so great looking girls...
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
biker_gixxer
Master Don Juan
- Joined
- May 3, 2004
- Messages
- 688
- Reaction score
- 0
Let your girl do all the talking, let her lead the conversation with the 'prospects'.
Be subtle about it, drop flirty hints, but don't be pushy.
Let your girl and the prospect hang out together by themselves first, so they can get comfortable with each other. Then you can move to the next level, the three of you hanging out.
The prospects have to be comfortable hanging out with 'both' of you before anything happens.
Be subtle about it, drop flirty hints, but don't be pushy.
Let your girl and the prospect hang out together by themselves first, so they can get comfortable with each other. Then you can move to the next level, the three of you hanging out.
The prospects have to be comfortable hanging out with 'both' of you before anything happens.
intel200
Don Juan
Alrighty guys, thanks for all the replies. I would certainly appreciate more.
My girl is definitely attractive. I know that other girls love her cause we have done a couple of 3sums b4. But we want to keep trying it and just have fun with it. I agree, the net isnt the best place, but I didnt know about Djing a girl in public to ask her to sleep with me and my girl. I can say that the gay club is an idea I have had b4 as well.
Post the link with those pics man!
My girl is definitely attractive. I know that other girls love her cause we have done a couple of 3sums b4. But we want to keep trying it and just have fun with it. I agree, the net isnt the best place, but I didnt know about Djing a girl in public to ask her to sleep with me and my girl. I can say that the gay club is an idea I have had b4 as well.
Post the link with those pics man!
diablo
Master Don Juan
So why are you asking where to go if you've already done it a few times?
There's your problem right there... you shouldn't be the one doing the approaching. Girls who are going to be interested in a 3some are going to be a lot more receptive to the idea if it's another girl approaching them - not another guy. She should be the one initiating contact with the girl, then bringing you into the conversation... not the other way around.
intel200
Don Juan
Ok,ok. i agree with you. SHE should be doing the contact. As far as why I am asking for a lil advice now.....We have done this twice but the overwhelming number of times we come up empty handed. 2 girls in over a year of looking. Those aint good odds. Just looking for some better advice.....
biker_gixxer
Master Don Juan
- Joined
- May 3, 2004
- Messages
- 688
- Reaction score
- 0
2 girls in over a year of looking.
Try 'not' looking for a while, see what happens. Ever notice how things happen when you aren't actively 'looking'...?
Try 'not' looking for a while, see what happens. Ever notice how things happen when you aren't actively 'looking'...?
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
syncmaster
Master Don Juan
Here's some advice from somebody who was in the same situation - don't make it a friend or somebody you know b/c it causes a lot of jealousy. Don't use the internet because you'll get fat chicks & ugs... go out to clubs & bars & pick up girls. Figure out if they're bi and then take em home... have your girl in the room and then just let her "participate" in the fun. LOL
- don't make it a friend or somebody you know b/c it causes a lot of jealousy. Don't use the internet because you'll get fat chicks & ugs... go out to clubs & bars & pick up girls. Figure out if they're bi and then take em home... have your girl in the room and then just let her "participate" in the fun. LOLbiker_gixxer
Master Don Juan
- Joined
- May 3, 2004
- Messages
- 688
- Reaction score
- 0
Don't use the internet because you'll get fat chicks & ugs...
haha, that's funny...
haha, that's funny...
diablo
Master Don Juan
Have you ever had a 3some with a girl you're dating before? I can tell you from experience that when you want one, you have to actively pursue it... the normal crap about "don't look for a girl, one will find you" doesn't apply... you've already got one, in this instance you're looking for another... The only thing that is going to pay off will be hard work and active interest. Not passitivity.
DonMEgaHoss
Don Juan
Well well well this is strange.... I just had my first one last night. was on the forums goofin off... and watchin' a movie. Bored since my fb's where working or something or other.. until late. Phone call a fb said she had a treat for me. After working double shifts for 3 days I was burned out. She said to come over to see for myself.. Me being curious went She was their with a co-worker from the restuarant. I saw her before but dunno didnt do anything.. Was content I guess. Anyways.. My FB like put in all this good word for me with the other girl.. I think they went to school together or something so they're tight ( more ways than one)
Basically gave her the rundown.. said I was a Lifeguard/surfer/cook=wet panties
We chated on the futon abit drinkin beer. Rubbin each other oh so sexeh....Jaw dropping and Mr. Mighty standing up to attention.
Lights go off and I start grabbin' everything around me... 2 girls it was like the cartoon thing where they fight in a cloud with arms and legs flying around.... well... sorta like that...lol slightly dramatized
I go to the beach, Well Im lucky enough to live close enough to one.. Hot chicks come in hunting parties their coeds
Yeah let your girl do the talkin' and build you up in the others eyes....so if you cant handle them both you can blame her for building you up too much lol...... I need to check the surf.
Basically gave her the rundown.. said I was a Lifeguard/surfer/cook=wet panties
We chated on the futon abit drinkin beer. Rubbin each other oh so sexeh....Jaw dropping and Mr. Mighty standing up to attention.
Lights go off and I start grabbin' everything around me... 2 girls it was like the cartoon thing where they fight in a cloud with arms and legs flying around.... well... sorta like that...lol slightly dramatized
I go to the beach, Well Im lucky enough to live close enough to one.. Hot chicks come in hunting parties their coeds
Yeah let your girl do the talkin' and build you up in the others eyes....so if you cant handle them both you can blame her for building you up too much lol...... I need to check the surf.
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
biker_gixxer
Master Don Juan
- Joined
- May 3, 2004
- Messages
- 688
- Reaction score
- 0
nice one bro...
intel200
Don Juan
Aint that the truth? I think this thread should stay open because I feel that this is a natural step, or atleast experiement, that any INTERTESTED DJ will want to have. So lets keep the advice flowing, We Can make this the official "SCHOOL ME ON 3SUM" thread.
For the record, we had a nice 2hr chat with a girl last night. We will probably see her this weekend at our first "Adult party"
Any more advice is welcomed!!!!
biker_gixxer
Master Don Juan
- Joined
- May 3, 2004
- Messages
- 688
- Reaction score
- 0
Sorry bro, but based on my experience, I have to disagree with ya. I've had situations 'fall into my lap' on numerous occasions. Having a three sum was the 'last thing' I thought would happen, but it did...
I'm Joe Dirt
Master Don Juan
In the book by Neil Strauss he recommends the massage technique where you get everyone to massage eachother and slowly get into it..
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.