intel200
Don Juan
My girl and I are interested in DJing single girls for a 3sum experience. So far we have tried the internet and have terrible results. The same goes for a few local chat lines. Anyone have any helpful hints?
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
For me the girl just found a cute chick she knew who was Bi.Originally posted by intel200
Ok, elaborate a bit. My girl is a full participant in this one, so that hurdle has been crossed. How exactly would you approach a girl while looking for a 3sum? And SHAME ON YOU ALL WHO ARE VIEWING AND NOT RESPONDING!
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
So why are you asking where to go if you've already done it a few times?Originally posted by intel200
I know that other girls love her cause we have done a couple of 3sums b4.
There's your problem right there... you shouldn't be the one doing the approaching. Girls who are going to be interested in a 3some are going to be a lot more receptive to the idea if it's another girl approaching them - not another guy. She should be the one initiating contact with the girl, then bringing you into the conversation... not the other way around.but I didnt know about Djing a girl in public to ask her to sleep with me and my girl.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Have you ever had a 3some with a girl you're dating before? I can tell you from experience that when you want one, you have to actively pursue it... the normal crap about "don't look for a girl, one will find you" doesn't apply... you've already got one, in this instance you're looking for another... The only thing that is going to pay off will be hard work and active interest. Not passitivity.Originally posted by biker_gixxer
Try 'not' looking for a while, see what happens. Ever notice how things happen when you aren't actively 'looking'...?
Originally posted by intel200
And SHAME ON YOU ALL WHO ARE VIEWING AND NOT RESPONDING!
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
nice one bro...Originally posted by DonMEgaHoss
Well well well this is strange.... I just had my first one last night. was on the forums goofin off... and watchin' a movie. Bored since my fb's where working or something or other.. until late. Phone call a fb said she had a treat for me. After working double shifts for 3 days I was burned out. She said to come over to see for myself.. Me being curious went She was their with a co-worker from the restuarant. I saw her before but dunno didnt do anything.. Was content I guess. Anyways.. My FB like put in all this good word for me with the other girl.. I think they went to school together or something so they're tight ( more ways than one)
Basically gave her the rundown.. said I was a Lifeguard/surfer/cook=wet panties
We chated on the futon abit drinkin beer. Rubbin each other oh so sexeh....Jaw dropping and Mr. Mighty standing up to attention.
Lights go off and I start grabbin' everything around me... 2 girls it was like the cartoon thing where they fight in a cloud with arms and legs flying around.... well... sorta like that...lol slightly dramatized
I go to the beach, Well Im lucky enough to live close enough to one.. Hot chicks come in hunting parties their coeds
Yeah let your girl do the talkin' and build you up in the others eyes....so if you cant handle them both you can blame her for building you up too much lol...... I need to check the surf.
Aint that the truth? I think this thread should stay open because I feel that this is a natural step, or atleast experiement, that any INTERTESTED DJ will want to have. So lets keep the advice flowing, We Can make this the official "SCHOOL ME ON 3SUM" thread.Originally posted by diablo
Have you ever had a 3some with a girl you're dating before? I can tell you from experience that when you want one, you have to actively pursue it... the normal crap about "don't look for a girl, one will find you" doesn't apply... you've already got one, in this instance you're looking for another... The only thing that is going to pay off will be hard work and active interest. Not passitivity.
Sorry bro, but based on my experience, I have to disagree with ya. I've had situations 'fall into my lap' on numerous occasions. Having a three sum was the 'last thing' I thought would happen, but it did...Originally posted by diablo
Have you ever had a 3some with a girl you're dating before? I can tell you from experience that when you want one, you have to actively pursue it... the normal crap about "don't look for a girl, one will find you" doesn't apply... you've already got one, in this instance you're looking for another... The only thing that is going to pay off will be hard work and active interest. Not passitivity.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.