"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I am currently jobless, overweight, balding, only some college. I forfeited my future to work for my parents and that ended 2 years ago. I kind of hate my life right now. I have only been on one date in the past 5 years. It really is that bad and I can only obsess about it. I need to take my mind off of my total failure of a life for the next year so I can start to get things turned around. I have a 5 year plan now to get my **** together by 40 but I really need to fix my mentality on dating. I'd like to start a family one day, but I just don't see that happening. I'm also okay with staying single dating around but that's not going to happen any time soon either. I need a fist full of red pills and get my **** together.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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I am currently jobless, overweight, balding, only some college. I forfeited my future to work for my parents and that ended 2 years ago. I kind of hate my life right now. I have only been on one date in the past 5 years. It really is that bad and I can only obsess about it. I need to take my mind off of my total failure of a life for the next year so I can start to get things turned around. I have a 5 year plan now to get my **** together by 40 but I really need to fix my mentality on dating. I'd like to start a family one day, but I just don't see that happening. I'm also okay with staying single dating around but that's not going to happen any time soon either. I need a fist full of red pills and get my **** together.
Forget about dating right now. Get your job situations and your weight situation remedied. Thats the immediate plan.
 

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Agreed with ^^^

Job and gym. You'll stop hating life when you realize you're making gains in all departments and being better than you've been before. Balding just happens and there ain't much you can do about it so stop worrying. In the end women don't care about that so much as they do about what you have to offer them.

Switch yourself to the abundance mindset. Get out of your own head and out into the world.
 

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Agreed with ^^^

Job and gym. You'll stop hating life when you realize you're making gains in all departments and being better than you've been before. Balding just happens and there ain't much you can do about it so stop worrying. In the end women don't care about that so much as they do about what you have to offer them.

Switch yourself to the abundance mindset. Get out of your own head and out into the world.
Check out our balding thread. Guys are saying theres a 20-50% improvement in hair density with the correct regiment.
 

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I have been. I'm on the fence about entering any kind of chemical treatment.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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It's one thing if you maxed out your potential and you need dating advice. Then the resident game gurus here can help you. But noone can hold your hand when it comes to life. This is not a place to come and get pity or motivation.
I'm not here for pity or motivation. I'm here for advice. I'm in a hole and I need to know how to get out of it.
 

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I've noticed a lot of guys have been coming to this board recently with all sorts of various problems. And the solution is always the same: Job and gym. I wonder what these guys expect? There is no secret but hard work and masculine willpower.

It's one thing if you maxed out your potential and you need dating advice. Then the resident game gurus here can help you. But noone can hold your hand when it comes to life. This is not a place to come and get pity or motivation.
It's the same 1 or 2 guy creating multiple accounts to troll.

You just got to notice the style, it's always the same.

And the same fools reply to it.

Shows the mentality of some men, with the troll having the higher IQ.
 

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Bro,

The balding fix is more for you and your confidence than for the ladies. Yes, it will help (unless you can rock the bald look), but I'd highly recommend you look at that thread. It's a simple process that yields results.


For the weight gain, fix that with either a straight veggie and fruit diet or KETO. Start with walking just 20 minutes a day. After a week or two, expand to 40 minutes. After another week or two, switch off days of cardio and some weight or resistance training with bands. Forget about the ladies right now and work on you.

As for the job situation, figure out what you'd like to do in life and go for it. Take baby steps. Look on YouTube. All is not lost, but only you can effectively make the change.
 

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As for the job situation, figure out what you'd like to do in life and go for it. Take baby steps. Look on YouTube. All is not lost, but only you can effectively make the change.
I think I have that part figured out. It's just that it's going to take a while to get there. 5 years minimum.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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I'm not here for pity or motivation. I'm here for advice. I'm in a hole and I need to know how to get out of it.
I just trust Jesus. The Bible says, "The Lord is my sheppard, I shall not want" in Psalm 23:1, and "Our God shall supply all our needs according to His riches and glory through Jesus Christ" Phil 4:19. Look at some Joel Olsteen messages to lift your spirits up on youtube! God has a plan for everyone's life before they were even born. Learn what your destiny is. Seek God's will for your life.
 

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I just trust Jesus. The Bible says, "The Lord is my sheppard, I shall not want" in Psalm 23:1, and "Our God shall supply all our needs according to His riches and glory through Jesus Christ" Phil 4:19. Look at some Joel Olsteen messages to lift your spirits up on youtube! God has a plan for everyone's life before they were even born. Learn what your destiny is. Seek God's will for your life.
how will these 'saint' quotes help OP?
 

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It would help him look to Jesus.
A man died during a flood.

He went to heaven and he berated, moaned, cried to Jesus.

He said "I prayed and prayed you'd save me but you never answered me".

Jesus finally got fed up with his whiny ass and said, "1st I sent a boat to rescue you but you stayed, then I sent a helicopter to you but you still stayed on the roof praying".

"You didn't listen and now u r here".

GOD only help those who help themselves.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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It's the same 1 or 2 guy creating multiple accounts to troll.

You just got to notice the style, it's always the same.

And the same fools reply to it.

Shows the mentality of some men, with the troll having the higher IQ.
The advice is solid whether the story is made up or not. There are probably plenty of forum lurkers in this situation that could benefit.
 
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OP, there are plenty of guys out there with good physiques and jobs who can't talk to women. You will always be able to find excuses not to do it. The sooner you start, the better.
 

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I am currently jobless, overweight, balding, only some college. I forfeited my future to work for my parents and that ended 2 years ago. I kind of hate my life right now. I have only been on one date in the past 5 years. It really is that bad and I can only obsess about it. I need to take my mind off of my total failure of a life for the next year so I can start to get things turned around. I have a 5 year plan now to get my **** together by 40 but I really need to fix my mentality on dating. I'd like to start a family one day, but I just don't see that happening. I'm also okay with staying single dating around but that's not going to happen any time soon either. I need a fist full of red pills and get my **** together.
Start by repenting.

Your penance is to memorize the DJ Bible front to back, repeat the 9 Iron Rules of Tomassi ten times, and say 50 "I am the prize | self improvement" motivational quotes.
 

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I don’t think the real solution has been presented to him yet. It’s not about women. They’re a bonus. A pleasurable side effect. They’re not the focus. Me, I focus on getting my goals met. I like college girls because I like to **** women, I don’t pine over them. Stop putting dating on a pedestal on handle what you need to handle. Hunt, fish, fight in MMA (if that’s your thing. If not learn martial arts) bang college chicks. Do what you gotta do, but make sure it’s masculine. Work out for you, not for women. Get your hair back yourself, not to attract women. None of this is about women. It’s about being male.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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