35, life went to ****.

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I am currently jobless, overweight, balding, only some college. I forfeited my future to work for my parents and that ended 2 years ago. I kind of hate my life right now. I have only been on one date in the past 5 years. It really is that bad and I can only obsess about it. I need to take my mind off of my total failure of a life for the next year so I can start to get things turned around. I have a 5 year plan now to get my **** together by 40 but I really need to fix my mentality on dating. I'd like to start a family one day, but I just don't see that happening. I'm also okay with staying single dating around but that's not going to happen any time soon either. I need a fist full of red pills and get my **** together.
 

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I am currently jobless, overweight, balding, only some college. I forfeited my future to work for my parents and that ended 2 years ago. I kind of hate my life right now. I have only been on one date in the past 5 years. It really is that bad and I can only obsess about it. I need to take my mind off of my total failure of a life for the next year so I can start to get things turned around. I have a 5 year plan now to get my **** together by 40 but I really need to fix my mentality on dating. I'd like to start a family one day, but I just don't see that happening. I'm also okay with staying single dating around but that's not going to happen any time soon either. I need a fist full of red pills and get my **** together.
Forget about dating right now. Get your job situations and your weight situation remedied. Thats the immediate plan.
 

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Agreed with ^^^

Job and gym. You'll stop hating life when you realize you're making gains in all departments and being better than you've been before. Balding just happens and there ain't much you can do about it so stop worrying. In the end women don't care about that so much as they do about what you have to offer them.

Switch yourself to the abundance mindset. Get out of your own head and out into the world.
 

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Agreed with ^^^

Job and gym. You'll stop hating life when you realize you're making gains in all departments and being better than you've been before. Balding just happens and there ain't much you can do about it so stop worrying. In the end women don't care about that so much as they do about what you have to offer them.

Switch yourself to the abundance mindset. Get out of your own head and out into the world.
Check out our balding thread. Guys are saying theres a 20-50% improvement in hair density with the correct regiment.
 

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I have been. I'm on the fence about entering any kind of chemical treatment.
 

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I've noticed a lot of guys have been coming to this board recently with all sorts of various problems. And the solution is always the same: Job and gym. I wonder what these guys expect? There is no secret but hard work and masculine willpower.

It's one thing if you maxed out your potential and you need dating advice. Then the resident game gurus here can help you. But noone can hold your hand when it comes to life. This is not a place to come and get pity or motivation.
 

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It's one thing if you maxed out your potential and you need dating advice. Then the resident game gurus here can help you. But noone can hold your hand when it comes to life. This is not a place to come and get pity or motivation.
I'm not here for pity or motivation. I'm here for advice. I'm in a hole and I need to know how to get out of it.
 

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I've noticed a lot of guys have been coming to this board recently with all sorts of various problems. And the solution is always the same: Job and gym. I wonder what these guys expect? There is no secret but hard work and masculine willpower.

It's one thing if you maxed out your potential and you need dating advice. Then the resident game gurus here can help you. But noone can hold your hand when it comes to life. This is not a place to come and get pity or motivation.
It's the same 1 or 2 guy creating multiple accounts to troll.

You just got to notice the style, it's always the same.

And the same fools reply to it.

Shows the mentality of some men, with the troll having the higher IQ.
 

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Bro,

The balding fix is more for you and your confidence than for the ladies. Yes, it will help (unless you can rock the bald look), but I'd highly recommend you look at that thread. It's a simple process that yields results.


For the weight gain, fix that with either a straight veggie and fruit diet or KETO. Start with walking just 20 minutes a day. After a week or two, expand to 40 minutes. After another week or two, switch off days of cardio and some weight or resistance training with bands. Forget about the ladies right now and work on you.

As for the job situation, figure out what you'd like to do in life and go for it. Take baby steps. Look on YouTube. All is not lost, but only you can effectively make the change.
 

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As for the job situation, figure out what you'd like to do in life and go for it. Take baby steps. Look on YouTube. All is not lost, but only you can effectively make the change.
I think I have that part figured out. It's just that it's going to take a while to get there. 5 years minimum.
 

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I'm not here for pity or motivation. I'm here for advice. I'm in a hole and I need to know how to get out of it.
I just trust Jesus. The Bible says, "The Lord is my sheppard, I shall not want" in Psalm 23:1, and "Our God shall supply all our needs according to His riches and glory through Jesus Christ" Phil 4:19. Look at some Joel Olsteen messages to lift your spirits up on youtube! God has a plan for everyone's life before they were even born. Learn what your destiny is. Seek God's will for your life.
 

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I just trust Jesus. The Bible says, "The Lord is my sheppard, I shall not want" in Psalm 23:1, and "Our God shall supply all our needs according to His riches and glory through Jesus Christ" Phil 4:19. Look at some Joel Olsteen messages to lift your spirits up on youtube! God has a plan for everyone's life before they were even born. Learn what your destiny is. Seek God's will for your life.
how will these 'saint' quotes help OP?
 
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It would help him look to Jesus.
A man died during a flood.

He went to heaven and he berated, moaned, cried to Jesus.

He said "I prayed and prayed you'd save me but you never answered me".

Jesus finally got fed up with his whiny ass and said, "1st I sent a boat to rescue you but you stayed, then I sent a helicopter to you but you still stayed on the roof praying".

"You didn't listen and now u r here".

GOD only help those who help themselves.
 

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It's the same 1 or 2 guy creating multiple accounts to troll.

You just got to notice the style, it's always the same.

And the same fools reply to it.

Shows the mentality of some men, with the troll having the higher IQ.
The advice is solid whether the story is made up or not. There are probably plenty of forum lurkers in this situation that could benefit.
 

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OP, there are plenty of guys out there with good physiques and jobs who can't talk to women. You will always be able to find excuses not to do it. The sooner you start, the better.
 

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I am currently jobless, overweight, balding, only some college. I forfeited my future to work for my parents and that ended 2 years ago. I kind of hate my life right now. I have only been on one date in the past 5 years. It really is that bad and I can only obsess about it. I need to take my mind off of my total failure of a life for the next year so I can start to get things turned around. I have a 5 year plan now to get my **** together by 40 but I really need to fix my mentality on dating. I'd like to start a family one day, but I just don't see that happening. I'm also okay with staying single dating around but that's not going to happen any time soon either. I need a fist full of red pills and get my **** together.
Start by repenting.

Your penance is to memorize the DJ Bible front to back, repeat the 9 Iron Rules of Tomassi ten times, and say 50 "I am the prize | self improvement" motivational quotes.
 
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