"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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30yo lady invites me on a work trip to Indonesia

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RalphaWreck

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It looks like a nice opportunity to stay at a great hotel in a location I'd have never thought of going until asked. We've been on 2 dates. F-closed on date one. Trip is scheduled for the end of the month.

She's nice, a 5/6 and presentable. No long term potential but seems a great gal to visit on a trip. My idea is to meet her there, sightsee while she's at work, and hang out with her at night.

She floated the idea. My response was thank you, I'll consider it and the subject was changed. She mentioned it again by text tonight. I told her I'd check flights and that was it.

What do you guys think. How do I string this thing along for the next month or so. I love the idea of the trip but as I mentioned above there is no long term potential (not even medium term).
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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btownbuck2012

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If your goal is just getting laid then do it. She probably wants a relationship with you and she'll definitely use sex to get that relationship HOWEVER, don't get attached because if you do it'll lead to resentment from her because you don't really want her and she'll pick up on that over time and be unhappy and it'll kill the relationship. She'll cheat or you will or someone will just blow the relationship up.

Best thing to do is just get laid for as long as you can but don't get upset when she nukes it because she wants something more AND she will nuke it after a period of time because she's clearly in that relationship/husband finding mode and won't put up with your crap for long.
 
PeasantPlayer

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She's nice, a 5/6 and presentable. No long term potential but seems a great gal to visit on a trip. My idea is to meet her there, sightsee while she's at work, and hang out with her at night.
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Thanks for the honesty. And you know what? Do the trip! It'll be a great experience
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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sazc

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My take" as long as YOU retain control of your air ticket, and understand that, if things go south, you need to make your own way in indonesia, then do it.

TTYTT from what I know, indonesia is GREAT. Cheap to visit, tons of 'entertainment' for men on the cheap. Just make sure you qualify if they are 'lady boys' first.
Great beaches, cheap food, cheap massages, just a good time.
 
Fireballs

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I'm currently living in Indonesia, it's a great place you should definitely go .. if it goes south with her there's a plethora of gorgeous feminine Indonesian girls and easy tourists to fall back on over here
 
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