"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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30yo lady invites me on a work trip to Indonesia

RalphaWreck

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It looks like a nice opportunity to stay at a great hotel in a location I'd have never thought of going until asked. We've been on 2 dates. F-closed on date one. Trip is scheduled for the end of the month.

She's nice, a 5/6 and presentable. No long term potential but seems a great gal to visit on a trip. My idea is to meet her there, sightsee while she's at work, and hang out with her at night.

She floated the idea. My response was thank you, I'll consider it and the subject was changed. She mentioned it again by text tonight. I told her I'd check flights and that was it.

What do you guys think. How do I string this thing along for the next month or so. I love the idea of the trip but as I mentioned above there is no long term potential (not even medium term).
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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btownbuck2012

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If your goal is just getting laid then do it. She probably wants a relationship with you and she'll definitely use sex to get that relationship HOWEVER, don't get attached because if you do it'll lead to resentment from her because you don't really want her and she'll pick up on that over time and be unhappy and it'll kill the relationship. She'll cheat or you will or someone will just blow the relationship up.

Best thing to do is just get laid for as long as you can but don't get upset when she nukes it because she wants something more AND she will nuke it after a period of time because she's clearly in that relationship/husband finding mode and won't put up with your crap for long.
 

PeasantPlayer

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She's nice, a 5/6 and presentable. No long term potential but seems a great gal to visit on a trip. My idea is to meet her there, sightsee while she's at work, and hang out with her at night.
Thanks for the honesty. And you know what? Do the trip! It'll be a great experience
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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sazc

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My take" as long as YOU retain control of your air ticket, and understand that, if things go south, you need to make your own way in indonesia, then do it.

TTYTT from what I know, indonesia is GREAT. Cheap to visit, tons of 'entertainment' for men on the cheap. Just make sure you qualify if they are 'lady boys' first.
Great beaches, cheap food, cheap massages, just a good time.
 

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I'm currently living in Indonesia, it's a great place you should definitely go .. if it goes south with her there's a plethora of gorgeous feminine Indonesian girls and easy tourists to fall back on over here
 
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