"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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3 women..all think they're my gf

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They don't know about each other. One is OK for local nights. One is OK for sex. The other is wife material (but she lives a state away).

I'm really torn. I want to pick one. I don't want to hurt the others. What's the play here?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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See the movie Intersection with Richard Gere. He has to pick between his wife (Sharon Stone) and his new girlfriend (Some HB.)
 

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Keep it going until things get too hot with one and you want to devote more time to her.
 

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8ball said:
They don't know about each other. One is OK for local nights. One is OK for sex. The other is wife material (but she lives a state away).

I'm really torn. I want to pick one. I don't want to hurt the others. What's the play here?
ok for local meaning not good enough
ok for sex meaning not good enough
wife material too far away meaning not good enough

Choose option D. Keep looking while still banging.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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8ball said:
They don't know about each other. One is OK for local nights. One is OK for sex. The other is wife material (but she lives a state away).

I'm really torn. I want to pick one. I don't want to hurt the others. What's the play here?
dont worry dude each of them have at least 3 other guys they are Fing in addition to you...lol:woo: :woo:
 

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most guys in here wish they had this problem hehe :)
 

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To begin with, I want to make some assumptions:

None of them know about eachother.

They all believe that you are "the one" guy ( as that is what most normal girls look for, the one) , especially if they believe they are in a relationship with you.

Also, you must be at a crossroad where you feel like you absolutely need to pick one and its time to stop ****ing around (no pun intended).

So, there must be one that makes you feel absolutely amazing to the point where you forget about the other ones? If not, which one more so than the others?

Go with your gut instinct. If you play this out too long, people will get hurt and you may be left with no one. Be smart. Everyone eventually gets caught so get out while you still can.

I'm pretty sure you can wife up any of them with enough time and work. Some will require less and some will require more. It just depends how much you want to put in.

DO THIS, Talk to all the girls individually:

Try to see if the local one will change to what you want and fix her ways.
Try to convince the sex one that there is more to a relationship than sex, and see if she is williing to work at it.
Try to talk to the wife one and see if she can be more exciting and adventurous.

A guy needs a well-rounded girl who can provide all the qualities he requires. You wont know which one can provide everything you want, but you need to find out which one is willing to change for you and dedicate all her efforts into making you happy. That is the best one. Which one loves you the most? Pick the girl based on HER interest level, not yours.
 
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