"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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3 weeks and getting engaged

Betterz

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My friend said to me on facebook today that he's getting engaged.
He's been seeing this girl for 3 weeks.

He's 34, she's 31 and they from South Africa (white)

Whats your thoughts on this?
All comments welcome. :rockon:
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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RedScorpion

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Why is he in such a rush to get engaged? It's a horrible idea, especially with the whole honeymoon period (honeymoon as in that emotional high the first three months roughly). Being engaged doesn't help, as its a forced connection now that has to be broken if they want some away time from each other, which is bound to happen with their first argument. And that will build resentment on the fact that they're together so fast. It's different if you know what you're getting into and have that agreement to who they are truly in your head. Which can't be done so soon (everyone presents their best side to who they like, but they will go to normal eventually).

All in all, I don't think it'll turn out well.
 

SgtSplacker

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Yeah man at the beginning everything's gravy. I don't consider I know a person until we have had at least a couple crazy experiences together and can sit around and be bored together.
 

backseatjuan

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One of them must be rich! Either your friend is a player and the girl is super rich. Or the girl is a gold digger and your friend is super rich. What kind of assets he has?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Bayne05

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backseatjuan said:
One of them must be rich! Either your friend is a player and the girl is super rich. Or the girl is a gold digger and your friend is super rich.
^I agree. One of them is up to something and probably used the whole "we not getting any younger" speech to convince their partner. Spontaneous engagements always have a hidden agenda.
 

AttackFormation

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Sounds like one of them is some kind of case (BPD/gold digger/etc.) but it doesn't have to be that way either.
 
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