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You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

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3 weeks and getting engaged

Betterz

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My friend said to me on facebook today that he's getting engaged.
He's been seeing this girl for 3 weeks.

He's 34, she's 31 and they from South Africa (white)

Whats your thoughts on this?
All comments welcome. :rockon:
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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RedScorpion

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Why is he in such a rush to get engaged? It's a horrible idea, especially with the whole honeymoon period (honeymoon as in that emotional high the first three months roughly). Being engaged doesn't help, as its a forced connection now that has to be broken if they want some away time from each other, which is bound to happen with their first argument. And that will build resentment on the fact that they're together so fast. It's different if you know what you're getting into and have that agreement to who they are truly in your head. Which can't be done so soon (everyone presents their best side to who they like, but they will go to normal eventually).

All in all, I don't think it'll turn out well.
 

SgtSplacker

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Yeah man at the beginning everything's gravy. I don't consider I know a person until we have had at least a couple crazy experiences together and can sit around and be bored together.
 

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One of them must be rich! Either your friend is a player and the girl is super rich. Or the girl is a gold digger and your friend is super rich. What kind of assets he has?
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Bayne05

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backseatjuan said:
One of them must be rich! Either your friend is a player and the girl is super rich. Or the girl is a gold digger and your friend is super rich.
^I agree. One of them is up to something and probably used the whole "we not getting any younger" speech to convince their partner. Spontaneous engagements always have a hidden agenda.
 

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Sounds like one of them is some kind of case (BPD/gold digger/etc.) but it doesn't have to be that way either.
 
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