niceguytoalphamale
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Thank you I feel strong
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
2nd time gf needs space
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Focal core
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Women like this is up too no good, usually addicted to drama.. The broken up/making up cycle is endless and get you stuck from getting a healthier attachment. U made a right decisions broken up with her, a man that is.
niceguytoalphamale
Master Don Juan
So even you think she will come back even though she has agreed we aren't meant to be?
lamath
Master Don Juan
Wrong mindset who cares if she come back
You leaving her and ignoring her will make you look more attractive to her, im almost 100% she will get in touch with you again.
Ignore her she is not worthy and will only **** up your life again
Stop focusing on the women. Stop talking about her.
It is never abt the women. Get that into your head.
It's always abt you as a man.
Start talking about what you can do to be a motherfvcking great man.
Stay within the masculine frame.
It is never abt the women. Get that into your head.
It's always abt you as a man.
Start talking about what you can do to be a motherfvcking great man.
Stay within the masculine frame.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
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From your posts "all along and didn't want to hurt me. I feel so crushed as I loved her sooo much. She goes for guys that do drugs and beat her up. I'm moving on she may come back in the future. She still has me on Facebook though? Why is this?"
Using the word 'love' in reference to her, keeps you trapped in painful yearning, so try and drop it from your vocabulary. You were understandably inebriated with how her attention initially helped you feel about Yourself, but real love is neither painful nor obsessional.
Real love never produce anguish..
Using the word 'love' in reference to her, keeps you trapped in painful yearning, so try and drop it from your vocabulary. You were understandably inebriated with how her attention initially helped you feel about Yourself, but real love is neither painful nor obsessional.
Real love never produce anguish..
niceguytoalphamale
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She has kept me.on face book lol
Focal core
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This is her part of the drama i just mentioned to keep you trapped in her web.. Try not to take it seriously. Its just nonsensical.
lamath
Master Don Juan
Delete her from you FB asap
No contact this will screw with your mind
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We all Told ya.. So take it from us from this time..
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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Then his head are more ****ed up than hers.
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Lots of great posts already and I'm late for the discussion.
I'm glad that you broke up with her. Two months in and she needed space for the second time is quite bad.
Now, if you want to be a better man, an alpha male if you'd like to call it, then you must learn from this experience. Don't dodge the pain by trying to forget what had happened. What had happened might be a very valuable lesson in your life. I'll help you to point out what you did wrong, in hopes that you will be much better at this.
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Part of why a woman needs space from you is that you were chasing her hard. Before she asked you for a space, did you give her time to miss you?
A woman's deepest desire is to find a man that needs to be conquer agian and again. That man has purpose in life. And it's not centered around her.
If you chased her hard, you were emanating desperation. Desperation is the #1 attraction killer.
If you didn't give her enough time to miss you, you took away mystery from her mind. Mystery is what keeps her want to experience you more.
And lastly (you did this and experienced this), if you do what she told you to do, then you are NOT leading her and she will feel bored by your presence. Do you know why? Because you took away manliness (some might say alphaness) from yourself. By doing what she said, you took away mystery from her mind. What marmel wrote is true. Don't be her dog. You are a man. A man must lead. Leading is a conscious decision. It's hard but it's how your self worth is built. Most men just want to be followers because they don't want to take responsibility for themselves and others. Leading is a habit. You do it everyday in your life.
Next time, don't be too available or too agreeable. If she say, "why don't you do X for me?", you might wanna play hard to get by saying, "I can't. I have other things to do." And if she really wants you to do it, she will do everything she can to change your mind. And this, will lead to more opportunities to do fun things while she persuades you. This is the difference between a boring man and an interesting man.
Women are moved by emotions. Use this for your advantage. I recommend you to stay on this forum. Lots of great people here. You'll learn much more from their advices. And if someday you lean something, don't hesitate to share it with others who still don't grasp it. By teaching others, you strengthen your own beliefs.
Like Spaz wrote to you, it's okay to scream, cry and feel bad about yourself. It's only natural. Give it some time.
When we're studying, we need to keep repeating subjects just to remember them. It's the same thing with a person. If you want to forget about a feeling for her, when the thought came, quickly dismiss it. Do not purposedly trying to reminisce your feelings for her. Remember the experience but dump the feelings.
I see that you are still wanting her to return back to your arms. This is not healthy. What's broken is broken. It will never come back to how it all began. That's why we're all advising you to find another woman. It's easier and more rewarding to start a new relationship than to try to fix a broken one.
I'm glad that you broke up with her. Two months in and she needed space for the second time is quite bad.
Now, if you want to be a better man, an alpha male if you'd like to call it, then you must learn from this experience. Don't dodge the pain by trying to forget what had happened. What had happened might be a very valuable lesson in your life. I'll help you to point out what you did wrong, in hopes that you will be much better at this.
...
Part of why a woman needs space from you is that you were chasing her hard. Before she asked you for a space, did you give her time to miss you?
A woman's deepest desire is to find a man that needs to be conquer agian and again. That man has purpose in life. And it's not centered around her.
If you chased her hard, you were emanating desperation. Desperation is the #1 attraction killer.
If you didn't give her enough time to miss you, you took away mystery from her mind. Mystery is what keeps her want to experience you more.
And lastly (you did this and experienced this), if you do what she told you to do, then you are NOT leading her and she will feel bored by your presence. Do you know why? Because you took away manliness (some might say alphaness) from yourself. By doing what she said, you took away mystery from her mind. What marmel wrote is true. Don't be her dog. You are a man. A man must lead. Leading is a conscious decision. It's hard but it's how your self worth is built. Most men just want to be followers because they don't want to take responsibility for themselves and others. Leading is a habit. You do it everyday in your life.
Next time, don't be too available or too agreeable. If she say, "why don't you do X for me?", you might wanna play hard to get by saying, "I can't. I have other things to do." And if she really wants you to do it, she will do everything she can to change your mind. And this, will lead to more opportunities to do fun things while she persuades you. This is the difference between a boring man and an interesting man.
Women are moved by emotions. Use this for your advantage. I recommend you to stay on this forum. Lots of great people here. You'll learn much more from their advices. And if someday you lean something, don't hesitate to share it with others who still don't grasp it. By teaching others, you strengthen your own beliefs.
Like Spaz wrote to you, it's okay to scream, cry and feel bad about yourself. It's only natural. Give it some time.
When we're studying, we need to keep repeating subjects just to remember them. It's the same thing with a person. If you want to forget about a feeling for her, when the thought came, quickly dismiss it. Do not purposedly trying to reminisce your feelings for her. Remember the experience but dump the feelings.
I see that you are still wanting her to return back to your arms. This is not healthy. What's broken is broken. It will never come back to how it all began. That's why we're all advising you to find another woman. It's easier and more rewarding to start a new relationship than to try to fix a broken one.
niceguytoalphamale
Master Don Juan
@lamath Wtf She still has a photo of me on her Facebook and says we are still in a relationship what is this girl doing?
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
lamath
Master Don Juan
Idk why she is doing this,but you should ngaf dont waste your time thinking about it.
You cant rationalized crazy
Dont look at her FB and delete/block her from seeing yours
You are doing it wrong right now!
It deludes her iinto thinking she still has control of the situation and you are still in orbit, but it’s too soon for you to even be asking that question…
Women don’t delete men as fast as they can be deleted by men…
niceguytoalphamale
Master Don Juan
@billtx49 am I officially a man for breaking up with her?
niceguytoalphamale
Master Don Juan
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@lamath am I officially a man for breaking up with her? And how does that make a woman's attraction for you higher if you break up with them?
lamath
Master Don Juan
Doing what you know is best even if it hurts is doing the Man thing
However still hoping she will get back to you is a beta mindset.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.