"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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28 year old HB9-10, suspected fake tatas.

Borknagar

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Yes, the super hot type.

Recently broke up with her fiance and shoots me a message at 2:15am. I'm passed out.


****!¡!¡!¡!¡

She seems super nice and chill though. Guess her ex cheated on her.

Ok I need some solid pointers here. I was out of the game for 10 years and barely able to work any women at all. I used to have a lot of success before I met my ex wife.

Thing is, 28 is a whole other generation for me. Back when I was single before and was out in the field every weekend and going on dates etc etc this girl would have been in high school at that time so she's around 10+ years younger than the average age of women I'm used to going after. I'm 45 myself.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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BaronOfHair

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Thing is, 28 is a whole other generation for me. Back when I was single before and was out in the field every weekend and going on dates etc etc this girl would have been in high school at that time so she's around 10+ years younger than the average age of women I'm used to going after. I'm 45 myself.
Relax... You could be one of many who are on the front lines of a seismic societal shift https://www.npr.org/sections/health...r-forty-its-now-a-lot-more-common-study-finds

Now that it takes men longer to get financially sturdy than was the case in prior centuries, and more women are recognizing that they really aren't designed for careers in the classical sense https://x.com/ambercfischer/status/1717204905784664178 older guys and young women pairing up is going to become more frequent
 

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Exercise a little care. From what you say she is higher SMV than you (you don’t seem comfortable around women her level. No hate I’m probably the same)

she is on rebound

she probably has a lot of suitors

she text at 2.15am. Drink/drugs or what? Who’s texting at this hour?

fake tata. Could be a red flag. She’s paid a lot of money and had an operation to attract men more efficiently.
I’m just saying this may have trouble written on it. Have fun but don’t get too involved as she may eat your soul.

Sourve, been there, and this is how I found here.
Most of the time the guy she is with at the time has paid for those
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Yes, the super hot type.

Recently broke up with her fiance and shoots me a message at 2:15am. I'm passed out.


****!¡!¡!¡!¡

She seems super nice and chill though. Guess her ex cheated on her.

Ok I need some solid pointers here. I was out of the game for 10 years and barely able to work any women at all. I used to have a lot of success before I met my ex wife.

Thing is, 28 is a whole other generation for me. Back when I was single before and was out in the field every weekend and going on dates etc etc this girl would have been in high school at that time so she's around 10+ years younger than the average age of women I'm used to going after. I'm 45 myself.

Whoa, 2:15 am message from a super hot type? Take a deep breath, don't get too excited!

Just be yourself, show genuine interest, and keep it light and casual for now. Don't try to impress her with your past or give advice on her recent breakup. Focus on building a connection and respect her boundaries.

And hey, it's okay to make mistakes - you've been out of the game for 10 years! Just have fun and learn as you go. Good luck!
 

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2:15 am text usually means after the bars/clubs she is looking to get her cheeks clapped in, this is why it's good to have your phone ringer on for situations like these just in case
 
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