Player_Supreme
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no comment, all the others have done it already.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
I'm doing this as a favor to you PRL.Originally posted by PuertoRican_Lover
Player, I saw the title of this thread and its' originator and your name as the last post and I laughed right away because I knew you were going to give him a hard time based on his reply on eternal's thread!
Must you be so cruel? Do you have a heart?
Originally posted by bobbob
I replied on the other post, PRL, it's cool, Poser Supreme isn't capable of saying anything even mildly insulting.
I was done with the other thread, but I just had to post 1 last time in respons, just to tear PS a new *******. peace
Hahaha ... oh my god ... I'm not even going to bother to read your post.
The fact that I got SOOOO under your skin must mean that I struck a nerve.
Things only get underneath a person's skin when there is TRUTH to them. That implies that every thing I said about you is based in fact.
You are a loser, a wannabe who tries to pass himself off as a "mack" or "pimp" or some other sorry ass "nigga" version of what it is to be good with women.
You're what, 35 years old? Shouldn't you be out with women instead of on your keyboard all day getting close to 4000 posts? That is just sad.
The fact that someone who is 26 and has never had a gf can call you sad, that means you REALLY must be pathetic.
Stop living in your little fantasy world. No one is buying your ****.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Originally posted by bobbob
I'm 26 and I've never had a gf. I haven't had a date in years. I feel like less of a man because of it. The worse part is I'm not that hopeful that things are going to change ...
I've read the dj bible and a lot of the posts here. They're great, I really wish I had known about this a few years ago. Back then I had much more confidence, and if I saw a woman I was attracted to, I didn't have much of a problem going up to her. Although I may have been nervous, at least I'd make the effort.
Now, I feel like I don't have a chance in hell, so I don't go up to any women I see. I know from experience that the women I'm attracted to, don't dig my type (skinny). I haven't gotten a phone number since April.
I've been working out for almost a year, and haven't put on any weight.
Sorry if this sounds lame, I just had to vent. It's frustrating as hell, and very depressing at times.
peace
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.