That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
..but yeah, to all the above.hieght ,age, activity level?TheLadiesMan said:...I've got some extra flab from that 220 era. Should I start running? Would like to reduce the amount of flab on me.. see picture. Also I'm addicted to italian ice.
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You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
good job losing the weight. But HOW did you lose it? Starving yourself???? ..right now, I got the hr long thing down hehe.. but as far as keeping her in the air that long, not yet... 20mins max, and I'm putting her on her knees.Mad Manic said:
At least 3 years of hard training, great diet, full dedication and great genetics then? People on here have very unrealistic expectations you know. They start a routine and a diet and expect to look amazing within 6 months. They then go off the training and diet because they're too busy drinking and going out and eating takeaways. Are you prepared to stop going out?TheLadiesMan said:
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Depends on the dude...8-10 months this guy would look good.Mad Manic said:
I mean 220 to 175? Not bad at all, really. I quit smoking, eating right, etc. Trust and believe me when I say to you, this didn't happen over nite. Suggestion for bulking, please.I-tallionStallion said:
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
You are out of your mind...the only way he's 12 weeks away is if he strips 20 lbs...and thats only a MAYBE...but then he'd weigh a measily and unattractive 155. It takes a lot more dedication than 12 weeks Mr.WISEASSMr. Wise said:
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.