"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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isn't it about time to go to college? try working towards a career you can have lots of fun in college and meet many chicks...
 
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First, get off the computer and go for a long walk. Second, get back on the computer to look for a job, a school, or a recruiter for the military. Third, start getting in shape because it will help clear you're mind. I suggest Stronglifts 5x5. The thing is to not look at changing your life overnight, but to do a little each day to make progress towards it.
 
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woulda been in school studying music right now but my loans didnt get cleared after high school......woulda been sick....i think the solution for me is too go run away into the hills,live off the land,with my guitar and not come back until im god status on the 6 string...that was the original plan before the loan got shot down
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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First, write down all of your problems. Then, write down what your ideal resolution of these problems would be. Then from there write down how you can go about doing it.

The best way to change your habits is to position yourself so that you are unable to revert back to them. For example, one of my goals was to stop spending money on food/drinks when I'm out at school/work, so to achieve this I don't take my credit card with me when I go. I also only leave a few bucks in my wallet so that I can buy something if I get hungry enough where I have to eat something. So then I don't have to worry about temptation because it isn't there.

You could do this with many of the problems you listed here. Delete your dealer's number, and if it's a friend then make them promise not to sell to you anymore. Even better, stop being their friend. For stopping smoking there's plenty of resources out there.

For living at home that's an easy one: get a job and find an apartment! It doesn't have to be a great place to live but at 20 pretty much anywhere's better than living with your parents.

****, you gotta keep the big picture in mind but realize that you gotta take many small steps to get there, or you're going to get overwhelmed. Start with one thing at a time (although I'd start looking for a job/apt ASAP because the first step in getting a girl is living on your own).
 
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its actually pretty simple when i really think about it.......STFU and go get paid......ill try that thanks guys
 
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