"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
20 year old burnout seeks advice
- Thread starter rocksoff
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“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Da Realist
Master Don Juan
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
The best way to change your habits is to position yourself so that you are unable to revert back to them. For example, one of my goals was to stop spending money on food/drinks when I'm out at school/work, so to achieve this I don't take my credit card with me when I go. I also only leave a few bucks in my wallet so that I can buy something if I get hungry enough where I have to eat something. So then I don't have to worry about temptation because it isn't there.
You could do this with many of the problems you listed here. Delete your dealer's number, and if it's a friend then make them promise not to sell to you anymore. Even better, stop being their friend. For stopping smoking there's plenty of resources out there.
For living at home that's an easy one: get a job and find an apartment! It doesn't have to be a great place to live but at 20 pretty much anywhere's better than living with your parents.
****, you gotta keep the big picture in mind but realize that you gotta take many small steps to get there, or you're going to get overwhelmed. Start with one thing at a time (although I'd start looking for a job/apt ASAP because the first step in getting a girl is living on your own).