"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
20 year old burnout seeks advice
- Thread starter rocksoff
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Da Realist
Master Don Juan
“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.
The best way to change your habits is to position yourself so that you are unable to revert back to them. For example, one of my goals was to stop spending money on food/drinks when I'm out at school/work, so to achieve this I don't take my credit card with me when I go. I also only leave a few bucks in my wallet so that I can buy something if I get hungry enough where I have to eat something. So then I don't have to worry about temptation because it isn't there.
You could do this with many of the problems you listed here. Delete your dealer's number, and if it's a friend then make them promise not to sell to you anymore. Even better, stop being their friend. For stopping smoking there's plenty of resources out there.
For living at home that's an easy one: get a job and find an apartment! It doesn't have to be a great place to live but at 20 pretty much anywhere's better than living with your parents.
****, you gotta keep the big picture in mind but realize that you gotta take many small steps to get there, or you're going to get overwhelmed. Start with one thing at a time (although I'd start looking for a job/apt ASAP because the first step in getting a girl is living on your own).