"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
20 year old burnout seeks advice
- Thread starter rocksoff
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Da Realist
Master Don Juan
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
The best way to change your habits is to position yourself so that you are unable to revert back to them. For example, one of my goals was to stop spending money on food/drinks when I'm out at school/work, so to achieve this I don't take my credit card with me when I go. I also only leave a few bucks in my wallet so that I can buy something if I get hungry enough where I have to eat something. So then I don't have to worry about temptation because it isn't there.
You could do this with many of the problems you listed here. Delete your dealer's number, and if it's a friend then make them promise not to sell to you anymore. Even better, stop being their friend. For stopping smoking there's plenty of resources out there.
For living at home that's an easy one: get a job and find an apartment! It doesn't have to be a great place to live but at 20 pretty much anywhere's better than living with your parents.
****, you gotta keep the big picture in mind but realize that you gotta take many small steps to get there, or you're going to get overwhelmed. Start with one thing at a time (although I'd start looking for a job/apt ASAP because the first step in getting a girl is living on your own).