Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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2 plates are friends! What can I do?

Huffman

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OK guys, I need some advice!

Earlier this week, some girl asked me out to go to a festival on Sat. Let's call her "A". She's a bit shy and looks are average, but when I talked to her I got a boner, so I said yes!

NOW today at staff gettogether I met this OTHER girl who is HOT and into me! I applied good kino and she was touching back! Lets call her "B".

PROBLEM: as we're talking she says "do you know A, she works near you" - "yeah" - "oh, she told me she's going to the festival with a guy, that must be you!" - "yeah thats me... (changed topic here, haha!)". HOWEVER, even after that we kept touching and I took the number, so green light!

Now what!? Both have the hots for me, but the're friends! I don't want to choose! But even if I choose, one will hate me for dumping the other!
How do I pull this off!? I have a date with A, but want to sex B! Or both!

GRRRRRRRRRRRR!
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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P.S.: There is actually a chance that I run into both at the festival. How the hell do I proceed.
 

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They're not plates until their lips have been wrapped around your raging hardon. Until then, they are prospects.

As for your question: Why bother? If one of them asks what the deal with the other girl is, just tell them you're friends, even if it's in front of them. And when you've singled them out, you make out. Confuses the hell out of them, keeps your intentions hidden and allows options to bang the other girl.

In the long run they'll find out no matter what you try, so unless you want an LTR with one of them, just make it clear that you're only interested in sex.
 

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LMFAOOO "two plates are friends"

Unless you've claimed exclusivity, all a girl assumed about you if you're spinning multiple plates is that you're a pre-selected alpha male who must have an amazingly tasty di*k.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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SandHawk said:
just make it clear that you're only interested in sex.
Okay prospects if you so want. Yes I think I should. The only reason why I wrote this is that one of them is pretty much AFC girl and I'm feeling guilty, even though nothing happened yet ;)

But you're right. This time I won't hold back because I'm afraid of being an ass. Me first, this time. I'll just try to pull it off without straight lying.
 

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Everything is going really well! Your faith is justified so far! A is fine, and quickly went out with B during work break. Damn she is interested! Was already texting me over the weekend. But funnily she then was reluctant to go. Was probably a test, because I said "cmon lets go" and everything was fine after that. Perfect mini-date, kino etc, she's into me. I gotta follow up soon.

She prolly thinks I'm a real pimp HOWEVER I'm expecting Last Minute Resistance later. How can I very quickly defuse the situation? I don't wanna get into an argument about how I'm friends with A and maybe she doesn't believe me and this and that.
Been there before, so what would you quickly say? "Blabla dont care dont worry" and continue. But not kill the mood with a discussion! Hm, maybe some smooth talk about how she turns me on, and then go for it again.

OK doing something else now before I think too much ;)
 

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In my experience, when they connect the dots you lose both of them. They make you the bad guy and that's that.

Must be a midwestern thing; these farmgirls are so afraid of getting played.
 
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